Who's heart has been broken till it feels no pain when it's hurt? - Page 3 - Singapore's Online Community

yukio · 17-05-2008, 12:36 PM

Maybe you shouldn't give people wrong impression from the start? or they really woo you woo till really send you home and keep tagging along with you then you should let them know that you don't like it.

**Cesario** · 17-05-2008, 12:38 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by fayneloves-
	I know I might be able to find my Mr Right when I'm older and this mindset might be able to change but can you be able to stand 4 consecutive hurt from 4 different relationships. One after another, it's just like never ending. I've got suitors trying to win my heart too, but all I did was to hurt them, cos I'm afraid I will be hurt by them eventually. There is one guy who said he likes me alot, and wants to ask for stead. I just told him off: Get your certs and talk to me later. When he wants to walk me home, instead of taking the lift, I took the stairs and he followed, up to the 6th storey, and then took a lift down to 4th floor. (Although I could just take the lift to my house straight). Well, being beautiful doesn't mean that I am able to find partners easily. It's much more harder for me to know who truely loves me and who just want to take advantage of me. Guys wants beautiful girls, Girls wants handsome guys. I have totally shut off my relationship life. Besides, I don't want to waste time on someone who I feel insecure with. Even if he's compatible with me, there are still many barriers for me to overcome so that I would believe in love.

i see. i didn really noticed that somehow. But although the mind tells u to shut off the feeling on ur heart, but ur heart is operating 24/7/365 other than pumping blood, but feelings. Although u are hurt from the past experiences, but tell yourself, the type of relationship u are looking in the future compared to the past, are totally different.

U sure look very practical when comes to finding a boyfriend

fayneloves- · 17-05-2008, 12:50 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by thegame
	the truth is the thread starter is too young to be sad till like that.. havent seen the world, so whats to be sad about relationship?

Well, adults always think that teenage r/s is always abt "i love you, you love me, let's do it." For me, it is not the case(though I used to have that mentality). My kind of r/s is commitment and romance. One clubber said, youngsters have only love and romance in their r/s, nothing else. My case is there are other extensions to it already. Money and others are also issues to my r/s(though I'm not seriously working).

	Quote:			Originally Posted by pika2
	fake photo

I have not seen you, and you've not seen me either. You can say that's a fake photo, but how can you prove that it's fake without knowing how I truely look like?

If you have doubts on whether that's a fake photo, please look around in the forum to verify it. Or you can ask some clubbers whether that's fake or not cos they met me before.

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Casper26
	I'm actually experiencing this.... Seriously felt like so dead.... kinda sickening feeling... I kinda give up!

I understand how you feel, but grow out of it and feel numb, like me...

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Stanstan
	time will heal ur wound ^^

Time heals the wound, and you forgot, it also might alleviate the wound too.

	Quote:			Originally Posted by stinky_shawn
	wounds will heal...but the scar left behind is forever...

That's definitely.

	Quote:			Originally Posted by simplepris
	heart that has been broken till it feels numb? sounds so familiar.. haha! i came across this sentence somewhere b4: u shd be happy to feel pain.. because it's a reminder that you are still alive.. smth liddat..? now it makes perfect sense to me liao. haha! ^^

Haha, well I am aware that I'm alive cos I have not seen the Hades yet. So, I don't really need to feel the pain cos the end result is an excruciating pain in the heart.

	Quote:			Originally Posted by tanweizhong
	Me?? Last time be STUIPD nice guy I got my heart stabbed, Ripped out of my chest. If that not even enough it was STOMPED on by the btch that dump me. Reason ??? " My Mama no like you" To add insult to the injury she mentioned "btw thanks for the $800 baby G hor" WTF... Now I'm a Jerk And I don't give things to gals, I ask gals to gave me things, and guess what?? It works =D Even if kanna break up, so what, I'm on the advantage cause I lose out to nothing, and gain lots of things throughout the relationship.... So back to your topic, YA, my heart pain until cannot pain last time. Now I no more pain. Why cause i Numb liaoz... (No amount of time will heal the bloody wounds that btch gave me) What a beautiful world to be a Jerk, where we all know Nice guys die 1st

I think your mentality is wrong. You might end up hurting yourself cos you'll never know what might happen next. Like this old saying: Never offend a lady, or you might end up paying it with your life.

Although you might feel the hurt, cos I know, Guys are absolutely more emotional than girls, just that they don't show. Why not divert the hurt to your studies or career?

	Quote:			Originally Posted by liminality
	Just treat failed relationships as experience la... At least now you know what kind of person you need to avoid and what kind of person you're actually looking for. My first relationship ended terribly and it took me 2 years to get over it. Oh well, her loss. Now I'm with someone who treasures me more and I'm happy. When you're young, relationship is all about love and romance. When you grow older you realise that there are other things involved like time, money, future, etc. And no, nice guys are not always last. Those are the stupid guys who go after girls who don't deserve their love. I was also a stupid guy once. When you meet the right one, please treat him/her the best you can.

I treat my ex, with the best of my ability. I also made some restrictions too, but erms, somehow, they're still satisfied with the commitment I showed. But you know, love fade and he might just end up feeling bored. I admit there are nice guys, but the problem is, they're rare to find. Superficially, you can see bad guys from a bird's eye view.

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Lautouzhi
	Wah lan, ur level so low one ah? Only becoz of a $800 watch? U want to buy one what, also nobody force u.

lols, sometimes orhs, you're so direct in your words.

fayneloves- · 17-05-2008, 12:56 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by NeaR
	Maybe you shouldn't give people wrong impression from the start? or they really woo you woo till really send you home and keep tagging along with you then you should let them know that you don't like it.

Hmms, I am not giving any false impression. I don't woo people even if I feel that I like him. Cos I know, my time is better off on my studies, rather than to think of someone else.

It's not that I don't like it. I'm okay with it. All these small actions are to test whether is me he like, or the physical looks he's looking for.

fayneloves- · 17-05-2008, 01:00 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Cesario
	i see. i didn really noticed that somehow. But although the mind tells u to shut off the feeling on ur heart, but ur heart is operating 24/7/365 other than pumping blood, but feelings. Although u are hurt from the past experiences, but tell yourself, the type of relationship u are looking in the future compared to the past, are totally different. U sure look very practical when comes to finding a boyfriend

Haha, yes very. Cos, I know which to choose and suitable for me, and which is not. Hahas. Well, it is lastly still feelings? But to get into my feelings, it's a long process...

**Stanstan** · 17-05-2008, 01:15 PM

well theres 2 side to everything, it solely depends on whether u want the positive or negative side. You're right, time might not actually heal your wound, yet in fact make it worse. Imo, if u'd really priortise your studies, you wouldnt even had felt numb for r/s matters at the first place.

I dont really believe that r/s will affect studies, its purely up to individual, i've relatives/friends whom already in a r/s since sec sch till they grad from local uni.(and of course the other side of the coin) It's all about how you & the other half managed the time, understand one another etc..(too many to be listed)

**Cesario** · 17-05-2008, 01:15 PM

long process? nah u will nvr know how it reaches ur heart. Its mind over feeling. I have the problem a couple of months ago, but sigh, dont say already. =/

**Stanstan** · 17-05-2008, 01:17 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Cesario
	long process? nah u will nvr know how it reaches ur heart. Its mind over feeling. I have the problem a couple of months ago, but sigh, dont say already. =/

well, in short, it always come when u least expected it