Unconditional love. You sure? - Singapore's Online Community

**sex-on-heels** · 19-06-2007, 10:56 PM

I guess most of us here, especially girls, would have been promised unconditional love, somewhat.

Like, I would love you no matter whether you return the love and I will watch over you silently even if you fall in love with someone else.

I used to be gullible I guess, believing too much of it.

Reality smacks hard and I realized, they are just...bullshitting to make you fall in love with them.

Ok, sad to say, it worked. Regretted too late.

Unconditional love does not seem to be possible at all. For a relationship or for a friendship. The only instance whereby unconditional love could possibly work is perhaps, familial relationships.

Other that that, whatever grandious promises one can make, it seems unlikely one would love you unconditionally. Like even if you hate him, he still says he's so besotted with you that it's fine, I will love you back.

Once one sees no more benefits out of a relationship, one leaves. And all that whole load of bulls of "I will love you no matter what" is just...bulls.

Anyway, so your take on this?

funnysnow · 19-06-2007, 11:00 PM

I agree.

I dont believe people saying, 'I will wait for you no matter what happen'. After a period of time, I seeing these people having another partner in no time.

But I do believe in True Love does exist.

**Tristanity** · 20-06-2007, 01:02 AM

I can nod my head to a certain extent regarding this issue. As TS mentioned that the only unconditioned love to her is family ties. Well, a couple will tie the nuptial knot and become a husband and wife which will make them a family too. When a situation like this arises, it means they have unconditioned love in the first place that binds them to the marriage. =)

**countrybee** · 20-06-2007, 01:05 AM

yup, totally crap...

**Maelstrom** · 20-06-2007, 10:23 AM

i have seen unconditional love before..

When my uncle was like 5 months away from getting married to his fiance, she got involved in a car accident which caused her to wheelchair-bounded. However that did not stop my uncle from marrying her..

The lady of course went on to be my aunite.. she's still wheelchair bounded but they have been happily married for 20 years..

**wabuaysong** · 20-06-2007, 12:08 PM

FATE ......

**genzo2106** · 20-06-2007, 02:33 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Maelstrom
	i have seen unconditional love before.. When my uncle was like 5 months away from getting married to his fiance, she got involved in a car accident which caused her to wheelchair-bounded. However that did not stop my uncle from marrying her.. The lady of course went on to be my aunite.. she's still wheelchair bounded but they have been happily married for 20 years..

Yes, there may not be really uncondtional love in the initial phases but i believe that as time goes by, true love will prevail just like Maelstrom 's uncle had shown.

I have to applaud your uncle for staying by your auntie's side all these years despite her handicap.:mellow3:

**titanic1912** · 20-06-2007, 02:42 PM

my best friend was the belle in my sch.. alot of guys went after her and eventually one of these lucky guys caught her attention. they got together and she told me what this guy promised to her and those bullshiting.

one day out of thrill, she went to cut her hair as short as a guy's hair. when she goes onto the streets some ppl even mistook her as lesbian. after some time, that guy told her that he needed more time to think about their relationship and nv contact her again.

so i dun really believe in those promises and vows that guys make especially when he is still passionately in love. he really means it only when something really challenging happens and he can still promise u a lifetime of love. :mellow3:

**seraph** · 20-06-2007, 02:50 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by titanic1912
	my best friend was the belle in my sch.. alot of guys went after her and eventually one of these lucky guys caught her attention. they got together and she told me what this guy promised to her and those bullshiting. one day out of thrill, she went to cut her hair as short as a guy's hair. when she goes onto the streets some ppl even mistook her as lesbian. after some time, that guy told her that he needed more time to think about their relationship and nv contact her again. so i dun really believe in those promises and vows that guys make especially when he is still passionately in love. he really means it only when something really challenging happens and he can still promise u a lifetime of love. :mellow3:

the guy abit dumb huh.
dont know hair can grow back de mehs.
exposed his lies just because of that. tsk tsk
:disgust2:

**lkarren** · 20-06-2007, 02:52 PM

i still don't believe.....i think unconditional love is like a nicer way to describe responsibility.

**summerdreamer** · 20-06-2007, 03:04 PM

things change. i believe that nth stays the same for foreva. for me i dun believe in unconditional love. cox our life dun ONLY revolve ard love. there's other things in life tt we persue.

**Vyruss** · 20-06-2007, 03:12 PM

I only believe that true Unconditional Love can only be provided by some immortal being you believe, such as God.
Cause they neither grow hungry, tired or thirsty....having this unlimited energy.

The only thing we have that even the Odds is Strength, which means to hold it together when everyone would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.

yunise · 20-06-2007, 08:35 PM

LOL. in reality, there's no such thing.

Now when guys say "I'll love u till the end of time" or such, I'll just take it as listening to music.

Even God's love for us aren't unconditional. If you don't follow his teachings, he'll judge on you too. As a believer of god, I'm not suppose to say this, but if he loves us as much as it's written in the bible, he won't leave earth to satan, and let those suffering go on.

(Gosh, I better pray for forgiveness later.)

**fuyumi** · 20-06-2007, 10:32 PM

We do have certain hopes that when we give, we hope to received even if it's a little bit. I was promised before that they will love me no matter what, not look for other girls, etc. The list goes on. Some I know ain't sincere but I have met a guy who promised me his undying love for life. Even though he's married, I still now I'm important to him. It's normal for people to move on as sometimes the timing maybe wrong but if we really love someone, I think we should hope that they are blessed with happiness.

PianoXBallet · 21-06-2007, 04:51 PM

I don't think that it's not possible but perhaps it'll be rare.

**astrea** · 21-06-2007, 05:47 PM

i believe in unconditional love, but i also believe that it will only happen in 10% of the cases of relationship.... so, if i am among the 10%, then i am a lucky woman... otherwise, oh well, it was expected aniwae...

so, i wouldnt put my hope so high yet i still truly believe that unconditional love is possible.