Have u read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"?

**deedee** · 19-10-2006, 02:13 PM

if u have read it, share with us how very helpful or useless it is in your relationship~

i personally feel that it's helpful but only if both parties read the book. cos it takes 2 hands to clap and both hv to strive towards understanding each other better and work towards a blissful love life together.

but some might not feel this way... cos what's mentioned in the book doesn't apply to them. for me it does cos i realised i'm quite a typical venusian. what about u?

funnysnow · 19-10-2006, 02:32 PM

I havent read this book but,

	Quote:
	i personally feel that it's helpful but only if both parties read the book. cos it takes 2 hands to clap and both hv to strive towards understanding each other better and work towards a blissful love life together.

is quite true..

**deedee** · 19-10-2006, 03:35 PM

x-post from another thread with some little changes~

ok basically the book begins with that long long ago, men lived in mars, and women lived in venus. these are 2 very different places and these habitants have very different cultures.

on mars, martians do not offer each other help unless asked. when being asked, a martian will offer solutions to the qns. if a martian didn't ask for help, the others assume that he's ok and trust that he's coping well by himself. and martians love to solve their own problems without interference from another.

on venus, venusians love to help one another. they willingly offer help to one another without being asked. venusians don't really ask for help. when they are down, the others will auto come and cheer her up. venusians give without being asked. they can sense unhappiness, and they'll try to help and console.

martians and venusians met, fell in love and lived happily together. one day, they migrate to earth and suddenly all got amnesia... and forgotten that they originate from different planets with different cultures. they start to expect each other to think like themselves and but they are ultimately very different! so there's a lot of frustrations.

when woman upset, man dun auto cheer her up cos she didn't ask him. if she talked abt it, she just want to feel better after he listened, but he'll offer solutions instead of consolations. cos man instinctively thought that u r asking for solutions when u talked to him. woman is unhappy cos man dun console her. man is frustrated cos he loves her and tried to help her but she's still unhappy.

when man upset, woman tried to help without being asked. she kept asking him what's wrong? why he unhappy? and he felt very annoyed by her cos he just want to be left alone. then when he didn't ask and she tried to offer help for his problem, he felt that she doesn't trust him to solve the problem himself. he is not happy. woman think she give and give but the man dun appreciate. man think woman is naggy and annoying.

so ultimately men and women should realise that they are very different from the beginning and think differently, respect the differences and seek to understand each other better. when woman knows that man is like that one, woman won't get so upset cos she understand that he is different and no matter what he still loves her. when man knows that woman is like that, man know she's just caring to him when she tried to help cos she loves him, and won't feel so frustrated and annoyed by her.

there are lots more things discussed in this book, so i think the book sort of help us understand the opp gender better, and it only works if both read. cos if u read and become very understanding, but your bf/gf nv and still always frustrated, so it's just u giving in and after a while also u'll get sian one right? then like that not helpful already.

k lah, so much for a sneak preview. haha~ cheers!

**fuyumi** · 19-10-2006, 03:42 PM

I realised that even till now no matter how you try to let the other party understand why each person behave in a different way, they honestly still don't get it. So at times, I just close an eye and learn to accept it as long as it does not harm either of us.

funnysnow · 19-10-2006, 03:50 PM

Wow.. that seems nice.. interest me to find out more ~

**deedee** · 19-10-2006, 04:04 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by fuyumi
	I realised that even till now no matter how you try to let the other party understand why each person behave in a different way, they honestly still don't get it. So at times, I just close an eye and learn to accept it as long as it does not harm either of us.

actually i think that's the way to keep it going strong! we all must learn to accept each other as who they are, how they behave, what they do... if cannot accept and keep trying to change the other person... a lot of frustrations one... then very difficult for the r/s to last.

but some ppl just dun think this way. they think why i do like this and he/she cannot?! so i guess this book is for them to enlighten themselves lah... haha~

**porcelaindoll** · 19-10-2006, 06:43 PM

Hey i didn't know its in a story form! cool! Gonna go get it!

**deedee** · 19-10-2006, 06:53 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by porcelaindoll
	Hey i didn't know its in a story form! cool! Gonna go get it!

hee beginning is a bit of story lah... then later more on theory but got case studies also... it's the only non-fiction book that i can read and not feel

**restless** · 19-10-2006, 07:25 PM

hmmm seems interesting...i dun even noe myself, much less the opposite sex.

**mecindy** · 27-10-2006, 04:00 PM

sounds nice...
guess its gonna make me understand guys a whole lot more
may go get it AFT my Os ^^
thanks for sharing!

**.phoenixity.** · 27-10-2006, 10:59 PM

i wanted to read but have not gotten the book~

19-10-2006, 02:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
deedee deedeelicious Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 565 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: West SGC$: 91.30 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 91.30	Have u read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? if u have read it, share with us how very helpful or useless it is in your relationship~ i personally feel that it's helpful but only if both parties read the book. cos it takes 2 hands to clap and both hv to strive towards understanding each other better and work towards a blissful love life together. but some might not feel this way... cos what's mentioned in the book doesn't apply to them. for me it does cos i realised i'm quite a typical venusian. what about u? ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ I'm a fat ass, motivate me! ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡

19-10-2006, 03:35 PM	#3 (permalink)
deedee deedeelicious Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 565 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: West SGC$: 91.30 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 91.30	x-post from another thread with some little changes~ ok basically the book begins with that long long ago, men lived in mars, and women lived in venus. these are 2 very different places and these habitants have very different cultures. on mars, martians do not offer each other help unless asked. when being asked, a martian will offer solutions to the qns. if a martian didn't ask for help, the others assume that he's ok and trust that he's coping well by himself. and martians love to solve their own problems without interference from another. on venus, venusians love to help one another. they willingly offer help to one another without being asked. venusians don't really ask for help. when they are down, the others will auto come and cheer her up. venusians give without being asked. they can sense unhappiness, and they'll try to help and console. martians and venusians met, fell in love and lived happily together. one day, they migrate to earth and suddenly all got amnesia... and forgotten that they originate from different planets with different cultures. they start to expect each other to think like themselves and but they are ultimately very different! so there's a lot of frustrations. when woman upset, man dun auto cheer her up cos she didn't ask him. if she talked abt it, she just want to feel better after he listened, but he'll offer solutions instead of consolations. cos man instinctively thought that u r asking for solutions when u talked to him. woman is unhappy cos man dun console her. man is frustrated cos he loves her and tried to help her but she's still unhappy. when man upset, woman tried to help without being asked. she kept asking him what's wrong? why he unhappy? and he felt very annoyed by her cos he just want to be left alone. then when he didn't ask and she tried to offer help for his problem, he felt that she doesn't trust him to solve the problem himself. he is not happy. woman think she give and give but the man dun appreciate. man think woman is naggy and annoying. so ultimately men and women should realise that they are very different from the beginning and think differently, respect the differences and seek to understand each other better. when woman knows that man is like that one, woman won't get so upset cos she understand that he is different and no matter what he still loves her. when man knows that woman is like that, man know she's just caring to him when she tried to help cos she loves him, and won't feel so frustrated and annoyed by her. there are lots more things discussed in this book, so i think the book sort of help us understand the opp gender better, and it only works if both read. cos if u read and become very understanding, but your bf/gf nv and still always frustrated, so it's just u giving in and after a while also u'll get sian one right? then like that not helpful already. k lah, so much for a sneak preview. haha~ cheers! ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ I'm a fat ass, motivate me! ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡

19-10-2006, 03:42 PM	#4 (permalink)
fuyumi Ice Princess Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 5,211 iTrader: (28) My Mood: Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Eastern Tranquinity SGC$: 111.30 Bank: 1,098.37 Total SGC$: 1,209.67	I realised that even till now no matter how you try to let the other party understand why each person behave in a different way, they honestly still don't get it. So at times, I just close an eye and learn to accept it as long as it does not harm either of us. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

19-10-2006, 03:50 PM	#5 (permalink)
funnysnow Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 8,399 iTrader: (1) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Singapore SGC$: 802.68 Bank: 0.17 Total SGC$: 802.85	Wow.. that seems nice.. interest me to find out more ~ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

27-10-2006, 10:59 PM	#11 (permalink)
.phoenixity. Moderator Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,784 iTrader: (6) My Mood: Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Tampines SGC$: 58.25 Bank: 523.91 Total SGC$: 582.16	i wanted to read but have not gotten the book~ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Woud you lie with me and just forget the world? ♥ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Do support the SGC Charity! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Support me! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

19-10-2006, 06:43 PM	#7 (permalink)
porcelaindoll 公主 Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,333 iTrader: (0) My Mood: Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: far far away SGC$: 421.20 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 421.20	Hey i didn't know its in a story form! cool! Gonna go get it!

19-10-2006, 07:25 PM	#9 (permalink)
restless Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 2,848 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: North SGC$: 3,741.46 Bank: 942.49 Total SGC$: 4,683.95	hmmm seems interesting...i dun even noe myself, much less the opposite sex.

27-10-2006, 04:00 PM	#10 (permalink)
mecindy (: Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 205 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: confeito SGC$: 549.50 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 549.50	sounds nice... guess its gonna make me understand guys a whole lot more may go get it AFT my Os ^^ thanks for sharing!

Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Email this Page
Display Modes
Linear Mode Switch to Hybrid Mode Switch to Threaded Mode