Should guys pay the expenses of the date or go dutch?

**sassygirl_** · 16-10-2006, 10:16 AM

Well, im just wondering if going dutch on dates are what most people do, or vice versa. i do admit i hate going dutch, but somehow, i think that it may be a little selfish of me if i wan my bf to pay all expenses. But on the other hand, i really wish he could pay everything. Well, its kinda contradicting. Thus, i wanna see if you guys have the same problem as me. :handsup:

**fuyumi** · 16-10-2006, 11:41 AM

I will let the guy pay on the first time and subsequently I can offer to pay.

**MamaRos** · 16-10-2006, 11:55 AM

When I was your age leh...the guys pay.

**wangzi<3** · 16-10-2006, 12:54 PM

As long as the guy don't expect you to pay for his share, he's alright

**boaz** · 16-10-2006, 01:16 PM

from the guy of view yes if it is the first time..but follow on i think it is better to go dutch.

**restless** · 16-10-2006, 01:53 PM

ur ang moh veri chim..i have to google to find the meaning...

i tink i prefer dutch. unless got special occasion. if everyday treat, then 1 day no treat she cfm cannt take it. somemore, its to differentiate special occasions from the rest.

**dfcn** · 16-10-2006, 01:59 PM

1st date..i would pay for her..2nd date onwards..she better be zidong abit..i will not be the "robert" stupid enuff for her to chop.. if she EXPECTS me to pay for her every date.. she can go fly kite!

**wangzi<3** · 16-10-2006, 02:17 PM

go fly kite ar?

so romantic ~ :love4:

lol!

**mystic.Id** · 16-10-2006, 02:37 PM

:biggrin4:

provety can hurtz sometimes
paying is a gesture.superfic

guys pays on first dates and offer to pay on follow on dates . for me. will pay or dutch

**.phoenixity.** · 16-10-2006, 03:08 PM

wah. i will sometimes pay for the stuff but my bf always insists on paying..

**mecindy** · 16-10-2006, 05:23 PM

hmm...
for me is right that the guy pays when it comes to eating out in a resturant or going for movies~
u see, the bill comes in one.
i will not expect myself to do calculations than hand him the amount i myself spend.
but on some occasions can be the girl who pays it all too
maybe like his birthday~
or when u got ur 1st pay? kinda stuff
:biggrin4:

funnysnow · 16-10-2006, 05:54 PM

Generation are changing. Last time, guys paid because girls don't work, and they would be housewife in future. Therefore the guys paid.

At this generation, woman are becoming stronger and more independant. Woman earn same income or some even more than guys. Now, why must girls still expect guys to pay? Just because girls every month went through a few days of period? In Singapore, we guys went through 2+ years of NS, wasted 2+ years which girls dont have to. Which means 2+ years of income and freedom. Girls can earn 2+ years of income more than guys.

Why do girls feel it right? To show our gentleman manner?

As what people say. Most girls are spender, while guys are spendthift. Does this make it a reason that allow guys to always spend our money on girls?

In my personal experience, sometimes I just cant stand it when girls keep saying she is poor or say no money to the guys, and expect guys to pay for everything. If she is really from poor family, I can understand. But no, these girls just don't wish to spend their own money. They have the money, but just want the guys to pay for them.

I remembered when I was in secondary school life, without an income, only allowance. I save and save, eat less, just to buy a gift for a girl. When I think back, I feel like a FOOL.

Sorry for any harsh remark. It just my two cent worth comments.

**teriyaki** · 16-10-2006, 08:09 PM

aww, tok dis one.. haiz~~ very angry, i gt one fren(is a ger) kip asking my another fren(boy) to buy her a present when it is even nt her bdae... dan hor... beg beg beg... juz for dat stupid little pig doll for $29.95...

i think very guo fen lo... dey both fren fren nia.. nt even gf/bf still wan other pple to giv her a present...>.< very shameless leh lyk dat...

okay, back to topic...
muz c de bf char de la... if my bf is de type pride is impt for him de... i will let him pay... cuz dun wan let him no face

but den if my bf de pride is nt so impt as money de... den go on dutch lo.. unless he insist of he pay dan let him pay or else go on dutch~~=D

**dfcn** · 16-10-2006, 08:24 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by mecindy
	hmm... for me is right that the guy pays when it comes to eating out in a resturant or going for movies~ u see, the bill comes in one. i will not expect myself to do calculations than hand him the amount i myself spend. but on some occasions can be the girl who pays it all too maybe like his birthday~ or when u got ur 1st pay? kinda stuff :biggrin4:

dun need calculate wad...juz round down to nearest 10 divide by 2 pay lor...say the meal $23.80 total..pay $10 oso can ma..no need exact $11.90

its matter of being zi dong or nt :rock:

16-10-2006, 10:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
sassygirl_ the lady speaks* Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 65 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: yishun SGC$: 166.50 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 166.50	Should guys pay the expenses of the date or go dutch? Well, im just wondering if going dutch on dates are what most people do, or vice versa. i do admit i hate going dutch, but somehow, i think that it may be a little selfish of me if i wan my bf to pay all expenses. But on the other hand, i really wish he could pay everything. Well, its kinda contradicting. Thus, i wanna see if you guys have the same problem as me. :handsup:

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dfcn SGPools donor Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 140 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: CCK SGC$: 307.50 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 307.50	1st date..i would pay for her..2nd date onwards..she better be zidong abit..i will not be the "robert" stupid enuff for her to chop.. if she EXPECTS me to pay for her every date.. she can go fly kite! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. - Singapore Premier BlogShops Listings

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fuyumi Ice Princess Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 5,211 iTrader: (28) My Mood: Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Eastern Tranquinity SGC$: 111.30 Bank: 1,098.37 Total SGC$: 1,209.67	I will let the guy pay on the first time and subsequently I can offer to pay.

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MamaRos Piak piak Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 2,886 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Bedok Reservoir SGC$: 0.00 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 0	When I was your age leh...the guys pay.

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wangzi<3 Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 2,926 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Jurong West SGC$: 804.50 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 804.50	As long as the guy don't expect you to pay for his share, he's alright

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restless Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 2,848 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: North SGC$: 3,741.46 Bank: 942.49 Total SGC$: 4,683.95	ur ang moh veri chim..i have to google to find the meaning... i tink i prefer dutch. unless got special occasion. if everyday treat, then 1 day no treat she cfm cannt take it. somemore, its to differentiate special occasions from the rest.

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wangzi<3 Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 2,926 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Jurong West SGC$: 804.50 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 804.50	go fly kite ar? so romantic ~ :love4: lol!

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mecindy (: Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 205 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: confeito SGC$: 549.50 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 549.50	hmm... for me is right that the guy pays when it comes to eating out in a resturant or going for movies~ u see, the bill comes in one. i will not expect myself to do calculations than hand him the amount i myself spend. but on some occasions can be the girl who pays it all too maybe like his birthday~ or when u got ur 1st pay? kinda stuff :biggrin4:

16-10-2006, 05:54 PM	#12 (permalink)
funnysnow Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 8,399 iTrader: (1) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Singapore SGC$: 802.68 Bank: 0.17 Total SGC$: 802.85	Generation are changing. Last time, guys paid because girls don't work, and they would be housewife in future. Therefore the guys paid. At this generation, woman are becoming stronger and more independant. Woman earn same income or some even more than guys. Now, why must girls still expect guys to pay? Just because girls every month went through a few days of period? In Singapore, we guys went through 2+ years of NS, wasted 2+ years which girls dont have to. Which means 2+ years of income and freedom. Girls can earn 2+ years of income more than guys. Why do girls feel it right? To show our gentleman manner? As what people say. Most girls are spender, while guys are spendthift. Does this make it a reason that allow guys to always spend our money on girls? In my personal experience, sometimes I just cant stand it when girls keep saying she is poor or say no money to the guys, and expect guys to pay for everything. If she is really from poor family, I can understand. But no, these girls just don't wish to spend their own money. They have the money, but just want the guys to pay for them. I remembered when I was in secondary school life, without an income, only allowance. I save and save, eat less, just to buy a gift for a girl. When I think back, I feel like a FOOL. Sorry for any harsh remark. It just my two cent worth comments. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

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teriyaki Mrs Kang-Park Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 7,803 iTrader: (10) My Mood: Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: lala land SGC$: 701.47 Bank: 14.62 Total SGC$: 716.09	aww, tok dis one.. haiz~~ very angry, i gt one fren(is a ger) kip asking my another fren(boy) to buy her a present when it is even nt her bdae... dan hor... beg beg beg... juz for dat stupid little pig doll for $29.95... i think very guo fen lo... dey both fren fren nia.. nt even gf/bf still wan other pple to giv her a present...>.< very shameless leh lyk dat... okay, back to topic... muz c de bf char de la... if my bf is de type pride is impt for him de... i will let him pay... cuz dun wan let him no face but den if my bf de pride is nt so impt as money de... den go on dutch lo.. unless he insist of he pay dan let him pay or else go on dutch~~=D B I G B A N G fanclub- To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Vote for big bang at MAA To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.