Should I ask her out? - Singapore's Online Community

**Leocravensky** · 28-03-2008, 10:04 AM

Ok, theres this girl that I've been noticing for a while since start of the year. I just got to know her for a month + cause of a common activity.

We sms a little, msn a little, talked a little, went out in grp twice but we're nowhere close or good friends or anything. Normal friends is what I'll view what we are now.

I'll really love to ask her out to know her more and to let her know myself more but i'm afraid that she might think that I'm desperate and eventually erase me in her life.

On the flip side, if I don't do anything, I'm not sure will we have the chance to get to go out together and talk and I don't think shes the kind of girl that has a lack of suitors.....maybe she'll slip away from my life just like that.

Any wise advise out there? So lost...

**YNWA** · 28-03-2008, 10:51 AM

ask lo........jiayou!!!

OleoCookie · 28-03-2008, 10:52 AM

yea!! dont fear rejection =)
Try and at least u noe u tried

**Casper26** · 28-03-2008, 10:56 AM

Try to date her out!

**corp25** · 28-03-2008, 11:03 AM

go for it dude!
who knows few weeks later shes your gf..
your will never know if you never try

so what if she rejects(choi ah) there is still other girls

**hooolahoop** · 28-03-2008, 11:05 AM

ask her out! let maybe go for a dinner or watch a play... it's just normal dating, i don't think you'll scare the poor girl out (:

cute wormz · 28-03-2008, 11:21 AM

maybe u can do something tat can attract her attention or something tat can give her a gd impression of you....

maybe later become she ask u out

**Leocravensky** · 28-03-2008, 11:22 AM

I have many friends says to wait a little while more. They mentioned cause its gonna be weird if i do ask her out now cause we don't really know each other much.

I'm not sure if shes aware that I'm fond of her, I try to give hints (try to be sweet in sms) care for her etc.
But so far she has been very neutral towards me still so I've no idea if she can feels it.

We have a mutual friend thats trying to org ktv session for us with some others, was thinking maybe after that den try asking her out....hmmm

cute wormz · 28-03-2008, 11:25 AM

best is tat u find something coomon tat u both can talk abt.....like tat can create more chances of conversation between u 2

**jencyc** · 28-03-2008, 11:29 AM

try to talk to her whenever u saw her... try to create common topic so that u can talk to each other more... for example, if she loves to music, chat with her about music and the favorite singers she like etc.......... yupps. that way, u can take the opportunity to talk to her and won't end up in a strange atmosphere.

jiayous!

**mxstryker** · 28-03-2008, 11:38 AM

if u are too afraid to ask her out to a 1 on 1 date, then ask some frens along, meaning both guys and girls, but not too many, 3 to 4 would be a nice number (including u and her that is).

Then slowly build on that, i dun do that thou, cos i dun wan the girl to be attracted to my fren hahaha so best to ask a girl.

go for it, hope to hear from u soon

**Myra Jovan** · 28-03-2008, 12:49 PM

but take it slow...

yunise · 28-03-2008, 12:56 PM

just ask her out buddy!

**TotalNV** · 28-03-2008, 07:07 PM

yeah i agree with the majority... if you dun try, you'll never know, and it'll a 0% chance of winning her over. so go ahead... ask her out (as a friend)... if she's smart, she will know that you're wooing her... and if she accepts your invitation for a one-to-one outing, then i think u stand a chance. if she says no, then i think it's pretty much a rejection for further advancement (i.e. she is not even interested). at least then you know it's time for you to move on.

SpicyBubbleTea · 28-03-2008, 10:31 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Leocravensky
	Ok, theres this girl that I've been noticing for a while since start of the year. I just got to know her for a month + cause of a common activity. We sms a little, msn a little, talked a little, went out in grp twice but we're nowhere close or good friends or anything. Normal friends is what I'll view what we are now. I'll really love to ask her out to know her more and to let her know myself more but i'm afraid that she might think that I'm desperate and eventually erase me in her life. On the flip side, if I don't do anything, I'm not sure will we have the chance to get to go out together and talk and I don't think shes the kind of girl that has a lack of suitors.....maybe she'll slip away from my life just like that. Any wise advise out there? So lost...

hey brother i feel EXACTLY like you now..
same situation..
have been wanting to ask her out.. but then.. seems like our lifestyles dont really match lol..
fear of rejection somemore..
then cant stop thinking of her..
dont want to think then feel like missing something..
think le heart TEAR cos u feel a void there..

people say "go for it", "jia you" but its really easier SAID than DONE..
haiz..
what can i do too??

**sarcastic** · 29-03-2008, 06:35 AM

relationship all start from frenz.

furthermore ur chance will be higher, due to having her number, msn add, went out in grps b4,
rather than other members, the gal they love machiam dun even know their existance.

play cunning wan lor. try to arrange group outing where every1 is not free except u n her lor. heehee

**-Rokugatsu-** · 29-03-2008, 06:53 AM

Try have more group outings and talk to her more during outings
slowly get more stuffs to talk about then get a chance to ask her out?
Just see how, if you think it's the right time then ask =)
Just don't be regret for anything ya! XD

**Leocravensky** · 30-03-2008, 10:35 AM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by -Rokugatsu-
	Try have more group outings and talk to her more during outings slowly get more stuffs to talk about then get a chance to ask her out? Just see how, if you think it's the right time then ask =) Just don't be regret for anything ya! XD

Yes... thats what i plan to do. We're having another grp outing next week... I guess my friends are right slowly get to know her more and let her know me more first... cause now as very neutral friends the chance of her saying yes is extremely low. And i'm pretty sure shes not feeling the way that I do. And during last outing she actually mentioned to us that for her to like someone, it'll take months lol.

Should try to increase my chances of her going out with me first. Thanks for all your views and comments =).