My5tiCaL

Here's a scenario...

He loves me, i love him... he dun think our r/s will last long due to differences/no common interests... He tell me dowan to continue becoz just not meant to be.. but i figured is coz he dont think our r/s will last long and dowan to hurt me more nxt time if anything shld happen so surpress feelings and dowan to continue.... shld i do something to try help him release the feelings like surprise on his bdae which is in about 2 mths+?

any views/opinions on this scenario?

diesopain

1st to repLy LoL.....anyway this kind of situation is bad if u think its not going to last it ll' actually happen and then u convince urself see what i told u wont last due to differences. how sure are u that this relationship is not going to last?

not necessarily having the best ingredients makes the best soup
likewise not necessarily having no common interest means the relationship ll' not last
all it takes is extra care and concern and it ll' last a long way

But i agree its not good for the both of u to lead separate lives...find some common activities that u 2 enjoy be more active in each other's lives...

plus novelty goes a long way.....
u not interested in the activities he likes doesn't mean u cant learn or join in these activities get a friend to teach u or ur bf teach u...unless these activities are harmful in a certain way e.g smoking....etc LOL

BeaR*BeaR

The most important is how you take this relationship .

If your bf feel realy no confidences about it . just have a good real talk wit him . believe things will work out together if he really loves you.

There's nothing much you can do , but just have a good talk

My5tiCaL

do u think it possible to help him "unsuppress" the feelings if i give him a nice big surprise on his bdae? coz i like 1 mth since we stop liao.. then i still got strong strong feelings... then i dun think he want to talk about it liao oso...

diesopain

if he intentionally want to suppress his feelings than it ll' be extremely difficult to unsuppress his feelings....i dun think a nice big surprise on his bdae works LOL cause from guy's perspective hey its birthday sum1 confirm gif me surprise....if u really want to surprise him surprise him anyday thats element of surprise a surprise visit when he is ill...
or ask him out go to his favourite outing place and juz the two of you.

there is another way if he suppress his feelings there is bound to be a limit until he cant help but to release his feelings u could try this ignore show indifference but treat him all the same as friend mayb one day he reach his limit he ll' show u lor.....

My5tiCaL

The thing is that he dun even wanna tok about it liao.. then where got will still wan go out juz the 2 of us?

inle

move on...
the guy s definitely not sincere when u gave u the crap excuses....
there r no two persons who r alike in the world wz all the common things tgr...

watever u do for him will b useless becos he s not bothered at all....
worse he mite b playin wz u all alon or seein other gals already....
dun waste ur time n effort anymore....
when the heart s changed, it s chnaged....
too bad u put ur feelings in the wrong person....
it will b worse if u continue to put ur feelings further in tis wrong person....

dun bother, really...
the one who cant let go s urself, not him....
it s as if u 1 2 marry him ya....

take care of urself....