fearless_blitzboi

How many people really believe in romantic love? How long can it last? Well, if romantic love is incorporated with compassionate love, wouldn’t it be better? Ponder about it for a moment.

Well, some people may think that embarking on a relationship sparking brightly and sweetly means that the love is so deep that as if there is only a couple in the whole wide world. But, well, how long can this last?

If we were to draw a graph of time on the x-axis and feelings on the y-axis, the line of the graph goes up very rapidly and the gradient of the line is very steep. This signifies high feelings with respect of the experienced of romantic love. The time is usually measured in most commonly, in months. Romantic feelings can’t go up and up and up. To a certain point, there’s a peak to the relationship. When it reaches the peak, it started to drop. As times (months) passes, it gradually goes down to the bottom.

Let’s take a look on compassionate love. Here, the same thing, draw a graph of time on the x-axis and feelings on the y-axis, the line of the graph goes up very gradually and the gradient of the line is rather gentle. This signifies rather modest feelings, moderate level feelings where compassionate love is experienced. The time is usually measured most commonly, in years. There are both ups and downs in this kind of relationship. No matter ups or downs, there are no peaks or bottoms, and the feelings are steady and constant with time.

With the above explanations of both graphs, we can see that compassionate love is more long lasting than romantic love. Of course, we can further analyse these two types of love with reasons for each type. But let’s look at what the mass media is portraying.

Many people enjoy watching movies, tv dramas, and some even enjoy reading romance novels. Most of the time, nowadays, these mediums of mass media portrait love as the most romantic thing, or as part of the life process. Some people may even read till weep, and laugh and cry and the love story goes whether in movies, dramas or novels. So touching, so heartening, feel sorry for this and that character and so on so forth. But in reality, can all these last for a lifetime? Can they? Or they are just temporary private lusting moments which usually last in a while? Romance can say they are part of the movies, part of the dramas, or part of the novels. There are twists and turns in order to capture the audience or reader’s attention. Whereas if the storyline is about compassionate love, viewers or readers might find the story rather boring, not touching type compared to romantic love. Anyway, we should know that what portray in novels etc are fictitious characters and shouldn’t always gauge with the reality.

So, though love and relationships comes not easy, we have to consider very carefully what type of relationship we want. Do we want short term as in short term romantic relationships, or long term, as in long term compassionate relationships?

Note: For those who are researching into Psychology, you will come across these theories and explanations about Romantic love and Compassionate love.

finaldust

lol i believe in love but so not much in romantic love bah only some can last bah

erm in relationship it is hard to keep Romantic feelings bah think both parties need to do something about it care for each other giving surprise etc bah it is the most important bah

to fall in love is always easy
to start a relationship is always simple
to build it, is always tough
to maintain it, is 'better said than done'
to break off, is 'easier said than done'
to remain friends after u broke off, is never possible
to forget the memories is 'always doing but never succeeding'
to heal the pain within is hard and tough and never near simple
but one has to try to heal your own heart...

clement

I tink so too... Compassionate is definately more impt..., I'll definately feel great and moved the person is concern for me, course to me, its like emotional support. Romantic is only a short-term.

fearless_blitzboi

Yes, even if how romantic a couple can be, they still have to come to the reality, to face the reality. The true test of love and relationships is how a couple can maintain the r/s in reality, and not living in a bubble of romance and dreams.

stanleyhuang

Good morning blitzboi..i've juz read through ur thread post..and i'm a little taken back by what is written...what u have given might be from the view point of an unattached person...i wouldn't classify love into romantic and compassionate...but i believe in love itself...are all love either romantic or compassionate...?if it's so...it would be awfully boring and wrong to be in love...coz u're either having a boring relationship or short and exciting one...which sums up what u have written in ur post...and at this point..it already sounds wrong to mi...

Love is all about that twitch..that pinch...that sour twist..that all weird feeling deep inside..that belonging...that thought...that emotion that gives u all ur words or expression...that feeling that sends u wild into tears or heat...etc etc...if u drew love on a graph...u would hit over the top today..and scrap the bottom tomorrow...it would be different everyday, every month, every year...u can't calculate or analyse love with maths gradient or statistics...

embarking on a love so sweetly and sparkling does not, even at the tiniest bit, define the length of the relationship, the life of the relationship, nor the end of the relationship...coz relationship is not defined by the start of it..but by the process, every little detail, and both the lovers...a beautiful sweet sparkling beginning onli define a good start to begin with...

the rise & fall of emotions and feelings in a relationship can be changed and there's no standard point or type of process...coz there are things like forgiveness, memories, faith, hope, strength, etc that makes every lover different...thus every relationship is different in at least one way or another...

true love cannot be reliant on the media to be projected to the public..but can be used as example to aid love in onli certain situations...but not in most...i've seen the most rash acts and impulse acts on the mass media...and those onli help in a very minority times..Movies, dramas, shows..they are meant for entertainment and does not project the actual reality...and, in fact, has shown a good gap between fantasy and reality...

i would agree with the fact that what goes up muz come down..no doubt about it...but what is down may rise up too...in simple terms..rise and fall all the time...applies for those who have hit the bottom too...it doesn't take romance to keep love alive...and love doesn't end when it reaches the bottom pit....it takes effort, time, and love itself to keep love alive...that's how marriages stay lovely and exciting even 40years or even 50years down the road...at times u feel like u hate ur partner...for all the wrong things or mistakes made..but u think of the happy memories and lovely ones...this is the point where love stays on and rekindles...love rekindles with a spark to start a flame once again..

often we would measure the love between 2 lovers with the time they were together...but what truly matters is what they have shared when they were together...they have shared their emotions...their feelings..their ups and downs..their lust...their hearts...their life..their presence...everything they have...that's what love is all about isn't it..? love is where time doesn't exist...

Let's put all these into reality and look around u...ur parents..ur friends..ur uncles and aunts...listen to all the stories...we start love with feeling love in our hearts...not thinking of the time in our mind...and love can be kept alive by our own efforts and love for our partner...

once again..i'll rephrase my question in contrast to urs...do u wan love that last a lifetime..?or has the start of ur relationship already decided how ur love would be till it ends...?

U Decide...~ :mellow3:

Def Leppard - When Love And Hate Collide

fearless_blitzboi

Gd day and thanks for the feedback. It’s true that love and relationships can’t be measured in figures. There are not figures to explain or determine how strong or how weak one’s feeling is. However, drawing a graph showing the gradient is for the purpose to aid my explanations.

I understand what’s the feeling of love as I am already attached. I am looking into more ideas and thoughts of having a long lasting relationship, even for after marriage life.

Thanks for your clear explanations and I truly appreciate it. I can say that from your point of view, I have known about love and relationships more to what I’ve mentioned.

Shyraiiyann

I have to admit, sometimes compassionate CAN exist in the Love of ur other half. However, it is different from that that you show to the beggers on the street, etc, i think stanley's reply is very true, i agree to every single point he said..

also, i'd like to ask, How do you measure love? How can you plot it out in a graph, when you cannot exactly even pen it down in words? How can you know the degree of your love, when you cant exactly describe it, measure it, or even see it?

What is essential in life, is usually invisible to the eye.



BTW, Great one there TS, got me thinkin alot.
impressed =)

SG FTW!

fearless_blitzboi

For those who are researching into Psychology, you will come across these theories and explanations about Romantic love and Compassionate love.

ichigo

wow, it's obvious there's some pretty deep thinking in this post. sigh. whatever it is, love is really a rather hard to figure out thing, isn't it? it's bittersweet. maybe that's the beauty of it.