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**no_time** · 05-07-2007, 01:06 AM

How to reject a girl and dun hurt her feeling ? can anyone teach me ?

I find out that my godsis like me , i dun have feeling for her so i wan to reject her but i dun wan to hurt her feeling and hope we still can be godbro n sis like what use to be...

**Vyruss** · 05-07-2007, 01:40 AM

Just reject .....
Hurt is part of the deal, just to how much damage is how you put it across to her.

a good suggestion is something called the sandwitch method. take 2 good points and sandwitch between what you want to tell her, you are not interested in her.....

Example: (you wish to tell someone that her Dress is ugly)

Hey, you are the one of the most prettiest girl at the party - "layer 1"

But I think that dress doesn't suit you, it clashes with your eye colour
and your shoes. quite sloppy indeed - "Layer 2"

How about dinner next week....I know a good place we can go to -"layer 3"

**lonerlost** · 05-07-2007, 01:48 AM

Extremely hard to reject a girl without hurting her feelings, perhaps telling her ur standpoint and slowly explain to her ur reasons.

**uyen** · 05-07-2007, 02:10 AM

So if you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the smiles and stare . If you don't like a girl who likes you, break it to her gently. 9. If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her, leave her alone for a while.

**genzo2106** · 05-07-2007, 02:38 AM

well its not easy.just try to hint to her subtly..but make sure that she wnt get overly upset after the rejection, else i think it be hard for you to be still god bro and god sis

**kaiten** · 05-07-2007, 06:45 AM

i always keep a good distance between who i interested in and who i am not interested in.. haha..

**sex-on-heels** · 05-07-2007, 11:49 AM

Hmm how about hinting that you are interested in another girl by casually saying "there's this girl at my school which I am kinda crushing on, but I don't have the courage to ask her out". In that way, she can retreat before actual rejection.

I suppose she has not blatantly told you she liked you right? So by hinting to her that there's someone else you are interested in, she might thus force herself to drop her feelings towards you since she knows you ain't interested in her. It's kinda saving her some face. After all, rejection is not pretty and you wouldn't know if she can take it well.

**no_time** · 05-07-2007, 12:06 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by sex-on-heels
	Hmm how about hinting that you are interested in another girl by casually saying "there's this girl at my school which I am kinda crushing on, but I don't have the courage to ask her out". In that way, she can retreat before actual rejection. I suppose she has not blatantly told you she liked you right? So by hinting to her that there's someone else you are interested in, she might thus force herself to drop her feelings towards you since she knows you ain't interested in her. It's kinda saving her some face. After all, rejection is not pretty and you wouldn't know if she can take it well.

this like alot guy every time use to break up with their stead...

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Vyruss
	Just reject ..... Hurt is part of the deal, just to how much damage is how you put it across to her. a good suggestion is something called the sandwitch method. take 2 good points and sandwitch between what you want to tell her, you are not interested in her..... Example: (you wish to tell someone that her Dress is ugly) Hey, you are the one of the most prettiest girl at the party - "layer 1" But I think that dress doesn't suit you, it clashes with your eye colour and your shoes. quite sloppy indeed - "Layer 2" How about dinner next week....I know a good place we can go to -"layer 3"

thanks... i think i know what to do

	Quote:			Originally Posted by lonerlost
	Extremely hard to reject a girl without hurting her feelings, perhaps telling her ur standpoint and slowly explain to her ur reasons.

ok

	Quote:			Originally Posted by uyen
	So if you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the smiles and stare . If you don't like a girl who likes you, break it to her gently. 9. If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her, leave her alone for a while.

ok

	Quote:			Originally Posted by genzo2106
	well its not easy.just try to hint to her subtly..but make sure that she wnt get overly upset after the rejection, else i think it be hard for you to be still god bro and god sis

how to hint ?

	Quote:			Originally Posted by kaiten
	i always keep a good distance between who i interested in and who i am not interested in.. haha..

i n her is can say very close godbro n sis...

**xiaoekin** · 05-07-2007, 12:18 PM

actually there is no way to reject the person without hurting a person.. if rejected then cry lor.. haha

**nph88** · 05-07-2007, 03:14 PM

sometimes is not wheather u reject go or not..if the person anyhow thing also not ur fault ma...sometimes u got the best answers to the solution but ended up the result not so good....

**YOURLOVER** · 05-07-2007, 05:26 PM

just reject lo. i tot girls hate people who po po ma ma de. at least my friends do.. =/

**ken-nerves** · 05-07-2007, 10:07 PM

i think the best way is to tell her that u have fallen for another girl.. at least she wont feel like u hate her looks/character or something..