theright0ne

Im with him for around 7months. very unstable relation. keep having brk patch problems. just yesterday we broke off. ok i shall rough de whole story. im consider his 1st gf. so he treat relation abit differently. also can say he does not know hw to be a bf totally. he dont do 1st intentions.

we broke up many times is bcoz of our both non understanding characters. we both do has very bad temper. especially me. this problem may sounds small. but i dont know why is happening so seriously between us. mayb bcoz of my temper or so. he think abit bad about me. he tends to lie to me.

from de very start of this relation he started to lie till nw. like when he is playing basketball with frens or so. but he will lie he got to stay in sch. reasons is bcoz he scared im angry. i've explained to him many times i really dont mind. just be true to me. den he came lying about he went to porn webby or so.

i got mad. i confronted him. and i oso told him i noe he is lying. and he just kept lying till i threaten to brk up. ok at this point. i noe im a fault for threatening. but he just wont tell me the truth.

and also we get angry with each other behaviours very easily. or can say we mostly disagree with each other thinkings. i really dont know hw to solve it.

after which we got back together around last week. he changed. he changed to somehow know hw to be make 1st move and dote me.

b4 the day we broke up again which is yesterday. he somehow saying gemini ppl which is me. tend to forget someone easily and fall for another. i get somehow mad again. -.- but i controlled. coz yesterday was start of sch. so i waited to 12pm and den call him to see hows sch and stuff just act totally nth happen and so he told me teacher just let them off for lunch and so lor. den i waited to 4 again. coz he finish sch at 4. so i called. but fone unable to reach. so i waited. im so so glad tat he used his fren hp to call me and say he's going home and so. coz he wont do tat last time. he will let me wait til he got home or mayb play finish basketball den around at nite den tells me. which always make me worry.

sound like im controlling him? erm nope. i onli contact him when lunch and after his sch. and ya.. during night time i den notice he'e been lying to me again. got to know from his frens tat he pon class. happen tat his fren apologise to him thru msn. but din he told me teacher just let him off? hahas. when i asked him. he say teacher let de class go early. den continue to lie till last den he admit he pon.

i cant tolerate ppl lying? and this not the 1st time. he says coz he scare im angry saying he nv study and pon class? den later say wat .. erm teacher says those students who dont wish to listen can leave de class. so he left.

frankly speaking i really dun dun mind. i went to sch b4. i noe all this stuff too. why cant he be frank? i explained to him so so many times. but he just thinks tat im bad. why is it like this.

teach me wat to do.. to continue and act as nth happen? or let us cool down for the time being? :cry3:

mrleech

You gotta consider the maturity level for both parties. Another thing, is a relationship happening now a thing that can be comfortably handled? Lying can be very addictive...


My suggestion, let both parties have a breather. Slowly decide what to you.

kenshee

Yeah i think you should cool down for the time being and flash back the time you spend together with him, izzit happy or sadness to you?
Since you say he lies alot i think is time to consider to continue the relationship or end it early. I think you do not want a lying BF to be with you which doesn't make you happy.

funnysnow

Somehow, it seems like a puppy love to me. Not really true love. Gave me a feeling that both of you get together for the sake of it. Ask yourself if you really want to continue on this relationship or not. Actually the problem you mention, is actually very small issue. Both of you can resolve easily.

About his lying problem, he seems to not say the truth, maybe is because he dont want you to nag at him this and that. Ask yourself, whenever he said he go play basketball or pon school, if he let you know, will you nag at him, or quarrel with him? If your answer is yes, this is why he rather keep thing from you. He knew he is doing something which you will nag him at.

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snoozy

Dont mind i ask how old are both of you? Did you reali did something that make him so scare of you? YOu stated that this is his 1st r/s, so i think he is still not used to have someone beside him and someone to call him most of the time asking wat he is doing. He is used to the freedom he have before.. give him sometimes to settle down, dont be too harsh on him.. If there is chance.. have a heart to heart talk with him. I think he is trying his best to commit in this r/s and the way he treat you.. so dont be to rush in this r/s.. For the time being, i suggest both of you dont tok abt this issue .. cool down for the time being.

finaldust

I think u both have to give in if u really wan to be together bah

to fall in love is always easy
to start a relationship is always simple
to build it, is always tough
to maintain it, is 'better said than done'
to break off, is 'easier said than done'
to remain friends after u broke off, is never possible
to forget the memories is 'always doing but never succeeding'
to heal the pain within is hard and tough and never near simple
but one has to try to heal your own heart...

GreenSn0w

hmmz..haiz..take a breather lor.. =/

Bel1987

L0ve need to give in... s0metimes he let u..s0mtimes u let him loi then less quarrel.. hu will nt say lies rite.. but to me he seems to be telling u white lies ba... c00l dw b4 u say angry words ya.. All the Best to ur R/S gal =)

theright0ne

hais. i oso think is small issue. but we just cant get talking together. i admit i nag at him b4. but tats at de start. coz he totally ignore my presense. i explained to him already. he himself oso agreed tat he is in rong for thinking bad of u. while right nw. we din talk to each other anymore.

theright0ne

we both are 18. i think is really my fault ba. i admit i did harsh on him b4. i harsh on his studies. coz he kept failing his modules and spent de all 2months holidays at home to play com. i duno issit for his own good or not. so he lied. coz i wan him to study well. and den 1st day pon sch ler.

thx bel. u look familiar. u noe kenny? >< sry

burgerboi

18? shld be sensible enuf to understand each other and gif way rite? if u are chinese, i think u shld understand this-> 忍一时风平浪静，退一步海阔天空

in short, just bear with it and gif way... but i dun have a gf before, so i dun have much experience in this area, so... hm... listen to other more experienced sgclubbers ba

burgerboi

oh... and giving each other a breather mite be good of an idea oso... clearer mind

silencedreamer

i agree with the rest: the 2 of u should cool down first, n think through it seriously. are u certain tt he's the one for u? i know u care abt him, but being naggy is not really a gd way. i think its best if u 2 remain as frens for now, coz i believe the 2 of u are schooling, n such probs in ur relationship will affect schoolwork quite badly. since he has been lying to u, i think the only way is to break, coz a relationship without trust n honesty is not going to work out.

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