nev

My girlfriend and I used to meet up at least 2 to 3times in a week. We had been together for around 2.5 years. Recently, since her school started which is around 2 weeks ago. She had been busy with her busy schedule. She attend school from daily 830 to 530+ sometimes even later due to project work. During school time, i send her some sms. But she took very long to reply. (not the usual her as she used to automatic and msg me)

Sometimes after school, I went to find her. But she insisted me not to find her and asked me to go home first? So I went home instead. I tried to be understanding about her busy schedule. I tried to call her every night to prevent communication break down. She's very tired and I want her to rest. So we talk about 15mins or so.

How? but i dun feel good? What's wrong?

I know if i want to tell her what i am thinking, she would say I am just being too sensitive?

So am i really that sensitive? I am confused, i really don't know what to do next. I want to remain the usual of myself and pretend nothing happen. I just don't feel good, feeling very moody.

Thanks.

kien0203

try to go out more with her during weekend, and spend more quality time together.

nev

I had been thinking a lot as this year is my final year of poly and going into NS. Therefore, I wished to spend more time with her before I go in. To be frank, I had been thinking a lot.

zeneeon

does she has a blog? friendster? from there you can actually know more about the happenings in her life. or maybe u can just pop by someday at her sch to give her a surprise and also see what kind of friends she hang out with.

dun be sad, cheer up!

nev

Yeah, trying to meet her during weekends. But sat was burned due with her school activities. And sunday is her family day. How?

Yah she blog and friendster. But she was too busy with her school and she seldom update now. I tried to give her surprise, but she asked me to go home first instead. I am trying hard to be strong somehow I still feel very sad.

zeneeon

surprise means she won't even know ur plan, and have no chance to turn u down u can just suddenly pop up infront of her.

anyway try to understand her school just started, she might not be able to spend as much time with u as in the past, give her some time to breathe. and try to find time to talk it out to her

nev

Yeah she told me she very stressed up with her school. I tried my best to give in as possible to prevent misunderstanding and conflicts.

Seriously, am i too sensitive? In my heart, I just worried this relationship will fall if things continue like this.

boyi66

how old?

tried think more positive ba.

unless u r telling me 2.5 yrs and the trust lvl is only like wad u said?

Regard,
Kel

zeneeon

you think too much i guess, afterall occasionally we do need some break in between to welcome new changes into our own lives. you must have the trust in her, the confidence in this relationship, else it will really prove you what you deemed it as.

ahhuii91

To me, i think that maybe she was unable to balance her study and you together.
Maybe she wanted to be with you all the time but she find that she have no time with her study,
while when she's always studying and have no time with you.
I think you should try telling her about how you feel about it.
As if this continue for too long, both of your feeling may fade away.

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nev

u mean age?

Yah, i feel that i think too much also. Sometimes it can't be help.

boyi66

yes i mean both ur age.

Regard,
Kel

nev

yeah maybe what you said was right, she used to want to be with me. But she told me she very stressed up with her work. Ya i know the results would be fatal if everything continue like this.

I scared bringing up this topic will irritate her. And i believed she would say "dont be sensitive"

sgelite

I think as much as you would want to express and speak up your mind, it would be better to exercise some patience, understanding and lots of tender consideration here. There is simply no point and room for anxieties and assertiveness here as both of you have priorities. Just drop her an email and say what you want there and that's it. I believe you have something else better to do whilst waiting for her response and / or call so do the needful on your part for yourself and her.

There is no point and need for you to pretend that you are anxious and feeling neglected. However, you need to understand that all things do have a sense of timing and the needed space for growth and progress in a relationship.

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Simplicity~

Ask her if you could spend one day together or something.. Cant she just take out one sun for you?
dont worry. try to let her breathe. Dont pound her with your questions. Just encourage her....

Hid my true self away,
Surrounded myself walls of steel.
Im just another non existent thing.
Those silence cries begs for people to hear.

Simplicity~

sgelite: the forum needs people like you LOL =)

Hid my true self away,
Surrounded myself walls of steel.
Im just another non existent thing.
Those silence cries begs for people to hear.

TheShah

Sometimes..time away from the one you love..is best...

btw..personal experience...Me n my gf..together 4 years..I go NS..she go Australia study..4 years..in between no contact (Isuppose breakoff) accept 6 letters...she came back..we met..1 half year later..engage...2 years later married..8 years later (presently)..3 kids...

Moral of the story...Sincerity in relationship ..is utmost important..the 4 years me n my wife apart..make us know..how much we really meant to each other..n God willing..if it is meant to be then you'll be together