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**hooolahoop** · 13-05-2008, 11:50 AM

not sure if it's the correct forum, but anyways... can you guys help me out me with the following symptoms? is this person (name is A) mentally unstable/ill/crazy etc?

1) when walking, other people laugh, A will feel that they are laughing at him/her
2) when people point in A's direction, A feels that they are pointing at him/her (which i don't know, if they are really pointing at him/her or not)
3) A feels that everybody in the world hates him/her (including family)
4) A feels that people are always laughing behind his/her back
5) A feels inferior in many ways (probably in every way), and feels that people despises him/her

is A suffering from some mental illness? or just some psychological effect? either way, any way to help A out?

thanks in advance

**bennylum79** · 13-05-2008, 12:08 PM

From what i've experienced, this is not a symptoms of unstable, ill, crazy non
mental illness that you mention above. It's something related to lack of self-confidence.

Like for example:
1) when walking, other people laugh, A will feel that they are laughing at him/her
May be, lack of self-confidence. You might thinking tat you're ugly or what. But, think this way. Most pple feel that they are laughing at him/her, this is a normal-reactions. Or maybe "A" think too much, who know? They might be laughing about something else?

2) when people point in A's direction, A feels that they are pointing at him/her (which i don't know, if they are really pointing at him/her or not)
If pple pointing at A's direction, and wasn't having eyes contact on A, or wasn't looking at A. They must be pointing something behide A were A is in the way?

3) A feels that everybody in the world hates him/her (including family)
This is self-blaming due to something in the passed or also can due to lack of confidences. A think everyone hate him/her doesn't mean everyone really hate him/her. Tat's his/her own thinking.

4) A feels that people are always laughing behind his/her back.
Same answer as 1).

5) A feels inferior in many ways (probably in every way), and feels that people despises him/her.
Build up your own confidences! Confidences play a big part in life. If you have it, you wont feel or think that way.

I do came across a post that someone posted on my thread.
I'll share it with you, hope it helps.

	Quote:			Originally Posted by stjc99
	Just hope to create more awareness about Depression. some information on Depression, if any of your or your friends have such problem pls do help! Serious depression Depression can make you feel like your life is spiralling out of control. Find out why it happens and how it can affect you. Nervous breakdowns According to the Mental Health Foundation one in 20 of us will suffer clinical depression including a 'breakdown' at some stage in our lives. The term actually refers to a wide range of experiences when someone has hit rock bottom. There is no such thing in medical terms, and making a diagnosis based on such a flimsy term is near impossible. Severe depression: This is the most common type of breakdown, where someone develops severe depression over a few weeks, where they can't sleep, feel on edge, have negative thoughts about themselves, feel more and more hopeless and then one day just can't get out of bed. Collapse in social roles: Inability to keep doing your day-to-day job and playing your usual part in your family or social life. Loss of sense of reality: When the person becomes delusional, 'has lost the plot'. A psychotic breakdown, although this is not always indicative of schizophrenia. Why does it happen? Breakdowns are caused by the interaction of the internal and the external, yet there is always a trigger or catalyst. Breakdowns are often associated with a major life event, such as the loss of a loved one or a broken relationship. Whether such life events cause a breakdown depends upon the individual's ability to cope with the situation. Those who are more vulnerable at the time are thus more at risk. For more information, read our full factsheet on nervous breakdowns. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) Although most people feel a little down when winter hits, SAD sufferers have symptoms that are severe enough to disrupt their lives and to cause considerable distress. Symptoms: Problems sleeping: oversleeping but not feeling refreshed; unable to get out of bed; needing a nap in the afternoon. Overeating: carbohydrate craving leading to weight gain. Depression: despair; misery; guilt; anxiety; normal tasks become frustratingly difficult; hopelessness. Family problems: avoiding your family and friends; irritability; loss of libido; feeling emotionally numb. Lethargy: too tired to cope; everything becomes an effort. Physical symptoms: often joint pain or stomach problems and a lowered resistance to infection. Behavioural problems: especially in younger people. What causes it? Apparently it stems from the lack of bright light in winter. The symptoms tend to start in September and last until April. They are at their worst in the darkest months. For more information, read our full factsheet on SAD. Feeling suicidal Many of us hit a crisis point where we can't see a way out and convince ourselves that life's not worth bothering about. What we often forget is that these kinds of thoughts aren't uncommon. Helping yourself Try not to isolate yourself. Tell one person you trust. It could be a family member, someone at work or college, or a friend - they may have experienced similar feelings themselves - either way, you'll feel better for having opened up. Get an appointment to see your family doctor, or ask for a home visit. If you find it hard talking face-to-face about your feelings without feeling ashamed or embarrassed, call a confidential helpline

**hooolahoop** · 13-05-2008, 12:15 PM

so A is not crazy right? just not confident?

do you think that a psychiatrist will help somehow?

**bennylum79** · 13-05-2008, 12:26 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by hooolahoop
	so A is not crazy right? just not confident? do you think that a psychiatrist will help somehow?

If not very serious then no necessary to visit psychiatrist.
A have to open up. Go out with friends or family more offen, try to
go out in group instead of alone. 看开点.
Try to build up the confident in whichever point tat A feel is weak on.
Building up confident is not easy by alone. I've been through it without any help from my friends
non family.
You know what i'm refering to if you read my relationship story before.

**3vilicious** · 13-05-2008, 01:36 PM

A psychiatrist may not help and may eventually worsen things because A is starting to feel lack of confident and may be stressed out if a psychiatrist come in.. A may start to feel that why does he need one and start to think negative.. Encourage A more and try to open his mind.. make him feel more confident about himself.. A few examples would be like encouraging him to try things he had never try before.. New clothes style.. New activities or sports.. and try not to hurt him too directly with words..

**bennylum79** · 13-05-2008, 01:39 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by 3vilicious
	A psychiatrist may not help and may eventually worsen things because A is starting to feel lack of confident and may be stressed out if a psychiatrist come in.. A may start to feel that why does he need one and start to think negative.. Encourage A more and try to open his mind.. make him feel more confident about himself.. A few examples would be like encouraging him to try things he had never try before.. New clothes style.. New activities or sports.. and try not to hurt him too directly with words..

What he comment is right. Getting psychiatrist will not do any help.
Thanks for filling up wat i've missed out.

**The Game** · 13-05-2008, 01:59 PM

sounds like inferiority complex and lack of self confidence.. bad combo..

perhaps might wanna try simple things to help the person gain confidence first, e.g playing a simple game that the person can win, etc... any games, computer or physical.

the person has to see first hand for him/herself that he/she is capable of doing something...

**hooolahoop** · 13-05-2008, 02:09 PM

errm, any specific activity then? 'cos A not very good in some sports, so when if we play some games like bball, A is quite likely to lose ba (bball is one of the dead spot of A).

'cos i want to help A, but totally *sigh* no idea how to... 'cos whenever A sort of got a little confidence, there will always be people who appear and say A until like good for nothing that kind (you know, students these days very harsh with words de). then A will kenah stepped again, then A go back to sqaure one....

**3vilicious** · 13-05-2008, 02:15 PM

A's feelings will be quite sensitive at this stage.. but for cases in lack of confident.. you can try to help but the rest still depends on A's mindset.. you can try talking to A and open A's heart first.. Let him know that he is no different from other people.. You may need quite some time to help A get back his confidence so good luck in helping your friend.. =)