boaz

saw this inside my inbox lieing there for quite long..so just sharing it with you guys and gers..


给女人的忠告......
Advice for Women

1 、当你爱上了那个追你的男生，一定要记得，不要让他在你的门口等上太久，因为任何人的耐心都是 有限的，不要 以为他喜欢你就可以毫无怨言的为你白白浪费几个小时的等待时间；
If you love a man who is persuing you, remember not to let him wait at your door for too long. Patience has its limits so it doesn't mean that because he likes you that he is willing to waste hours of his time waiting for you.

2 、如果你不爱他，那么请早点告诉他，不要让他再为你耗费自己的青春，感情还有金钱，更不要把他 的追求当成是 自己炫耀的资本，被人玩弄的感觉就像吞了一只苍蝇那样恶心，亲爱的，为了保持你的形象，请你早 点拒绝他；
If you don't like him, tell him early. Don't waste his youth, feeling or money. Even more so, do not take his persual to show off to others, being played out feels as gross as swollowing a mosquito. To protect your image, reject him early

3 、在你的朋友和他的朋友面前不要表现的像一个母老虎一样，男生总是爱面子的，在外人面前多给他 一点也没有什 么不好的，更何况他是你的男朋友，而且自己也能落个贤妻良母的称号，一举两得，何乐而不为呢；
Do not behave like a tigress to him in front of your friends or his friends. Men have ego. Besides it isn't really that bad to be nicer to him since he is your bf, and on top of that you can get complimented for being virteous. Kill 2 birds with one stone, so why not do it?

4 、对他要倍加呵护，男人总是比女人过得更难，在外面风风光光的，心里也许有很多说不出来的苦衷 ，所以当他偶 尔下班回家摆了一张臭脸的时候决不要生气，要用你的温柔打动你的爱人，谁还没有不顺的时候嘛；
Giver him extra care and concern cos being a man is usually much harder than being a woman. They may seem like nothing's wrong on the surface, but deep inside their hearts there may be many problems that they can't verbalize. So sometimes if he shows you an displeased face after work, don't be angry. Instead, use your tenderness to touch his feelings... Who doesn't have bad days, right?

5 、不要宣扬那个所谓现代男生的 “ 三从四得 ” ，什么 “ 老婆的命令要服从，老婆的 …… ，老婆上街要等得 ” 等等，站在一个女性的角度来看都觉得这个是很不合理的，更不要提男生了；
Do not promote the "obedience" rules of the past for modern man like must obey the wife, he belongs to the wife, if the wife go shopping he must wait etc... It's not reasonable even from a woman's point of view, much less a man.

6 、逛街的时候不要一心只想着自己逛的爽，其实大部分男生都是不喜欢陪着女孩逛街的，很多可能都 没有陪过自己 的老妈，只是由于你是他的女朋友才没有发飙而已，换个人早就溜之大吉了，所以买了东西就赶紧回 家吧，要是非 要逛的话不如去找同性朋友，和她们逛起来才是真的尽兴，相信谁都不想看自己的男朋友走进一家服 装店的第一件 事就是找板凳；
When out shopping with man, be careful not to be self-centred. In reality, most man do not like shopping with gf, most have not even been out shopping with their mom. It's just that you are their gf so they can't reject, if it was someone else, he would made excuses to leave already. So go home once you've got what you want to get. If you really want to shop, why not ask your gal friends? It would probably be more fun. It would be such an eyesore to see your bf walk into a store with you just to look for a seat.

7 、不要和别人攀比，女生有的时候虚荣心比较重，但是为了你们的将来，请千万不要说出，你看谁谁 谁今天又买了 什么什么的，说者无意，但是这时候男生心里面肯定很不好受，脾气好一点的会不说话，脾气不好的 估计就要发火 了；
Don't compare with others. Sometimes woman tend to like to show-off. For the sake of your future together, it's better to keep mum. You may never meant anything by saying that "so and so bought this and that" but it doesn't feel good for a man to hear all this. If he has a good temper he would keep quiet, if not he would have already started a fight...

8 、不要当着男朋友的面大肆的夸奖别的男生，除非你是不想和他过下去了，因为这样的直接后果就是 他会以为你看 不上他了，所以才会这样当面羞辱他；
Do not compliment other man too much in front of your bf. Unless you do not want to carry on the r/s with him, these comments may hint to him that you no longer like him and thus you are insulting him in this manner.

9 、不要和别人说你们两个人之间的小秘密（这个的内容大家自己想想），即使是再亲密的朋友也不能 说，除非他不 知道，否则他知道了心里肯定又会又疙瘩的；
Do not tell others the little secrets both of you share, not even to close friends. Unless he doesn't know, or else he will feel irritated.

10 、做错了事就要主动承认错误，那种认为两个人吵架不管谁的错认错的一定是男生的想法已经过时了 ，现在男女平 等，犯了错误承认一下又不会多长两斤肉，所以错了就请对他勇敢的说： “ 亲爱的，我错了，原谅我好吗？ ” ， ok ，矛盾一下子全解决了；
The type of thinking that man should apologize first after a quarrel despite the fact that he may not be at fault is outdated. In this time where there is equality, it really doesn't hurt to apologize if you have made a mistake. So if you make a mistake, you should tell him bravely that "Dear, I'm wrong. Will you forgive me?" After a little deliberation, everthing is solved.

11 、不要每天神经兮兮的拿着他的手机看看有没有什么不好的短信，是你的别人抢都抢不走，不是你的 再怎么样都留 不住的，所以相信自己，做个自信的 PP 女友；
Do not be paranoid and check his phone everyday for messages. If he's yours, nobody can snatch him from you. If not, nothing you do will keep him by your side. Believe in yourself and be a confident gf.

12 、对他的老妈一定要好，当然毫不讲理的婆婆除外，因为他妈妈和他在一起的时间现在远比你们在一 起的时间要长 ，他们的感情肯定也比你们的要深，不要问那种 “ 我和你妈妈同时落水你会救谁的问题 ” ，很多时候答案往往会让你伤心，要不就是他根本就是哄哄你罢了，况且如果没有他他 * 的悉心教导怎么会有这么优秀的男生呢，所以把她当你自己的妈妈一样看待吧；
Treat his mom well, unless she is really unreasonable. Simply because his mom has spent more him with both of you have together, the bond is much stronger. Don't ask questions like "If your mom & me both fell into the sea, who would you save first?" The answers will usually be upsetting to you, or else he is just coaxing you. Besides, without his mom's guidance, would you have such a good bf? So treat his mom as if she was your own mom.

13 、不要背叛他，给他真正的安全感，让他能放心大胆的去开创自己的事业，并且始终记住：无论贫穷 还是富有，健 康还是疾病，都要相爱相依，不离不弃，直到死亡。
Do not betray him. Give him a sense of security so that he can concentrate and focus on developing his career. And always remember: For richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, love each other, not leaving or desserting each other, until the day you die.

爱他，摘下你的面具。做他的爱人、情人、朋友、兄弟、父亲和孩子。关心她，像他关心你一样；紧 张他，像他紧 张你一样；爱他，像他爱你一样。在要求和挑剔他之前，先问问自己做得怎么样。不只是被爱和索取 ，而是平等地 相互体谅，相互关怀，把你的心和他的心紧紧相连。
Love him, remove your pretences. Be his lover, partner, friend and family. Care about him, just like he cares for you. Worry over him, just like he worries over you. Love him, just like he loves you. Before you start picking on his faults, ask yourself how good you are as well. It's not to just being loved and asking for love, it's equal amounts of consideration for each other, concern for each other, that ties both hearts together...

funnysnow

quite true !

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HUIXIAN

i love it all that you've jus mentioned :>

sassygirl_

the most important thing in a relationship is TRUST

Wenzi

hmm, i love my bf! haha

it's me.. wenzi!!!!
愛一個人不一定要擁有﹐但擁有一個人就一定要好好去愛他!
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skai

true. but often, one party always complain their SO are not trusting enough when they ownself are not earning it.

fuyumi

Nice advise. Will bare that in mind.

.phoenixity.

*claps hand* xD

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boaz

trust is an affect by two party..and like what my working peer (who is marry for 10yrs)say :lack of communication is lack of trust.A good relation whether in friend or bgr or your working peer.communication is the most important ingredient toward any rs.like using two hand to clap...1 hand is call a slap..

mecindy

nice advise!
appreciate it lots~
thanks =D

boaz

your welcome:biggrin4:

fuyumi