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18-12-2006, 04:38 PM
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| | Addicted SGClubber Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 866 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 2,618.14 | Love 往往许多人在抉择伴侣时,容易东想西想,不知所措,就是因为害怕一时做错决定,看错人,造成终 生的遗憾。
诺贝尔文学奖得主萧伯纳说:「此时此刻在地球上,约有两万个人适合当你的人生伴侣,就看你先遇到哪一个,如 果在第二个理想伴侣出现之前,你已经跟前一个人发展出相知相惜、互相信赖的深层关系,那后者就会变成你的好 朋友,但是若你跟前一个人没有培养出深层关系,感情就容易动摇、变心,直到你与这些理想伴侣候选人的其中一 位拥有稳固的深情,才是幸福的开始,漂泊的结束」
爱上一个人不需要靠努力,只需要靠「际遇」,是上天的安排,但是「持续地爱一个人」就要靠「努力」,在爱情 的经营中,顺畅运转的要素就是沟通、体谅、包容与自制( 面临诱惑有所自制)。有许多人总是为「际遇」所迷惑与苦恼,意念不停、欲念不断、争逐不散,而忘了培养经营 感情的能力才是幸福的关键。
所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的Mr. Right,而是要问说在眼前的伴侣关系中,我能努力到什么程度、成长到什么程度,若没有培养出经营幸福的 能力,就算真的 Mr. Right出现在你身边,幸福依然会错过的,而活在犹疑与遗憾当中,这不就是许多「爱情虚无症」的遭遇与心 态吗?
若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣,不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了,我们往往不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱,就是「 近亲生慢侮」,也就是经济学中的铁律「边际效益递减法则」,跟你在一起越久的人,就越容易麻木与忽视,而新 鲜的「际遇」总是那么动人可爱。
在感情对待中,难免有摩擦与无心的伤害,而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最多的人,当然是跟我们在一起最久、 最亲近的人。而新欢呢,又还没开始有得罪你的机会,再加上他的刻意讨好,所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱,旧爱怎么 看怎么讨厌。
但别忘了,新欢身上总是有不确定的未知数,旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶 然的「际遇」中迷失了自己,错放了幸福温暖的手。
所以萧伯纳的话,是要提醒情人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一,应该把精神用在学会经营幸福的能力上,同时也提 醒我们「溺水三千只取一瓢饮」若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣,就不要再三心二意了,因为我们永远不知道一生何时会 遇到两万个其中的几个,所以要知福惜福、活在当下
勇气
终于作了这个决定 别人说我怎么不理
只要你也一样的肯定 我愿意天涯海角都随你去
我知道一切不容易 我的心一直温习说服自己
最怕你忽然说要放弃 爱真的需要勇气来面对流言蜚语
只要你一个眼神肯定 我的爱就有意义
我们都需要勇气 去相信会在一起 Like Photography? Visit To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Now! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. |
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18-12-2006, 04:44 PM
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| | Fallen Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 80 Gender:  Location: central area of Singapore
Total SGC$: 184.06 | but it's always the person like you and you had no feel towards him/her.
The person you like, always end up "only friends" ~**bEtTeR tO rEiGn In HeLl, ThAn SeRvE iN hEaVeN**~ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. |
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18-12-2006, 04:51 PM
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| | Addicted SGClubber Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 866 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 2,618.14 | Not true all the time. It depends a lot on luck and fate. Like Photography? Visit To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Now! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. |
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18-12-2006, 04:56 PM
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| | commentator Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,938 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 3,943.49 | :biggrin4: lol hope so .. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. |
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18-12-2006, 07:22 PM
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| | Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,034 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 1,446.29 | haha...ya lor..it's always the person u like will always end up "only friends" |
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18-12-2006, 07:37 PM
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| | Addicted SGClubber Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 414 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 732.20 | ya...i agree.... |
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18-12-2006, 10:32 PM
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| | Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,313 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 714.70 | hahah true.. thks for sharing.. |
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18-12-2006, 11:04 PM
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| | Addicted SGClubber Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 366 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 890.00 | Someone Please Translate! |
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19-12-2006, 12:04 AM
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| | SINGING&DANCING ROCKSSSSS Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,761 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 1.10 | haha
i also wan ppl to translate..
difficulty reading chi words.
or doing a summarising also can =pp |
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19-12-2006, 12:08 AM
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| | Registered Members Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 25 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 58.50 | Cherish to your rescue....
Here's the translated version using google translator..
dont flame me if its not correct... | Quote: | | | | | Many people in the choice of partners often, it is easy to think haphazardly, not knowing what to do, for fear that time is a wrong decision, wrong. Health eventually caused the regret. Winner of the Nobel Prize in Literature Bernard Shaw said : "At this moment in the earth, about 20,000 individuals for when your life partner. Which one would you first encounter, the second ideal partner there, You have to develop a front apartment they got along famously, the deep mutual trust, which would then become your friends, But if you are not in front of a train deep, it is easy to shake feelings, feelings change, These ideal partner with you until one candidate has a solid and deep, is a happy, Wandering the end of the "love needed to rely on the efforts of one person, only to rely on" luck "is in heaven, However, "continued love of a person" must "work" in the business of love, the smooth functioning of the elements of communication, understanding, tolerance and self-made (the temptation facing some homemade). There are many people who always "appeared" confused and distressed, ideas, his constant desire, raced to leave. forgotten is the ability to cultivate emotional well-being of the key. So who is in the end I had to ask Mr. Right, but asked in front of the partnership, I can work to what extent and to what extent growth, and if we do not develop the ability to operate happiness, Even if Mr. Right there on your side and still missed the happiness, and live in hesitation and regret, That is not many "blind love" in the experiences and state of mind? If you have a long moment accompanied by a partner, not to shrink from a casual half-hearted. We always easy to detect feelings of a trap, "a close relative of Health slow insulted." The iron law of economics is the "law of diminishing marginal returns," the longer with you. the easier it will be numb and neglect, and the new twist on the "fate" is always so charming and lovely. In dealing with feelings, it is inevitable frictions and unintentional injuries, but their frequency is greater on the most offended. Of course we are together with the longest, closest to the people. And the new darling, and it has not yet started to offend you have the opportunity, coupled with what he's meant to please, the new darling of how to see how lovely. love to see how how disgusting. But do not forget, there is always uncertainty in the new darling of unknowns, who is a rare familiar with the tragedy that feeling. trust. Never at any accidental "fortune" lost their fault that a happy warm hand. So Bernard Shaw, then, is to remind lovers should not look at it only too ignore. Society should operate in the spirit of happiness with the ability, we should also be reminded "poured drink drowning 3000, only" if lucky enough to find a rare partners refrain from the half-hearted, because we never know when life will encounter 20,000 a few. Therefore pleasure to know good fortune. live in the present courage finally made the decision that others would say that if you ignore how the same I am sure that the ends of the earth are willing to go with you all I know is not easy to have my heart study convince myself When you suddenly said to give up love really need courage to face rumors as long as you have a certain look in the eyes of my love for meaningful, we need the courage to believe together | | | | | |
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19-12-2006, 12:18 AM
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#11 (permalink)
| | Addicted SGClubber Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 542 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 316.60 | ya that one u like always dun like u...haiz.. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. |
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19-12-2006, 02:00 AM
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| | borinzzz.blogspot.com Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,100 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 2,085.54 | wa cherish im impressed .. |
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19-12-2006, 10:54 AM
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#13 (permalink)
| | Addicted SGClubber Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 366 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 890.00 | Wow Cherish i cherished what you did ! |
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19-12-2006, 11:13 AM
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| | mr yang (bei ru) Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 1,845 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 3,457.12 | very the chim:biggrin4: |
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20-12-2006, 11:56 AM
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| | Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,087 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 45.30 | wah! dont understand sia.. 
mess with the best, die like the rest.
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20-12-2006, 03:52 PM
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#16 (permalink)
| | Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,763 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 597.42 | lol i read few paragraph of the eng one i went O_o already xD To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Woud you lie with me and just forget the world? ♥ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Do support the SGC Charity! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. Support me! To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. |
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20-12-2006, 06:14 PM
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| | Addicted SGClubber Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 425 Gender: 
Total SGC$: 0 | very the chim wor.. |
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21-12-2006, 04:09 AM
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