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ursie · 10-09-2008, 10:06 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by -Fairytale-
	This is so unbecoming...

haha well everyone HAS to be good at smthg.. who knows!

ursie · 10-09-2008, 10:07 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by xiao pi gu
	ALrite, there will be no disagreement and licking anymore okay!

haha there never was any licking! don't get the wrong idea 'kay.

**PECTOPAH** · 10-09-2008, 10:10 PM

its just u
imo u started too early

ursie · 10-09-2008, 10:15 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by PECTOPAH
	its just u imo u started too early

meh, is anyone in the same situation. anyone at all. someone i can perhaps share my pain w/ & relate to. damnit i'm still a teenager, & i know i may be hardcore & shit, but someone? D:

lmao. f*ck it.

**sgelite** · 10-09-2008, 10:23 PM

TS ursie,

Just what is actually the problem with the men you meet? Bad mouthing them and creating animosities here with certain members, would not solve your problems within and make you a better person.

I think all of us will at certain stages of a relationship will bound to encounter problems and it will be up to each of us to resolve the differences at hand for the good and continuation of the relationship.

You had asked a good self reflecting question at the beginning but you are asking without any relating - a consensus if other members would be in a similar situation as you. Don't you find this rather vague and ambiguous? As in all things, I suppose that it would only be fair that you begin with yourself and put everyone to be on the right perspective by disclosing what is actually happening to you at your end. Just don't get too worked up with certain over enthusiasm of certain members which is so common amongst us.

I think you are looking for a solution and/or answers and until you could relate what is actually happening at your end; there will be no right answer(s) to your predicament. Just hope you could be more proactive here and hopefully find an answer to resolve some of the frustrations that you are facing.

ursie · 10-09-2008, 10:36 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by sgelite
	TS ursie, Just what is actually the problem with the men you meet? Bad mouthing them and creating animosities here with certain members, would not solve your problems within and make you a better person. I think all of us will at certain stages of a relationship will bound to encounter problems and it will be up to each of us to resolve the differences at hand for the good and continuation of the relationship. You had asked a good self reflecting question at the beginning but you are asking without any relating - a consensus if other members would be in a similar situation as you. Don't you find this rather vague and ambiguous? As in all things, I suppose that it would only be fair that you begin with yourself and put everyone to be on the right perspective by disclosing what is actually happening to you at your end. Just don't get too worked up with certain over enthusiasm of certain members which is so common amongst us. I think you are looking for a solution and/or answers and until you could relate what is actually happening at your end; there will be no right answer(s) to your predicament. Just hope you could be more proactive here and hopefully find an answer to resolve some of the frustrations that you are facing.

honey i just need to rant. emotions don't make a person rational most of the time. i'm hurt, & i wanna know if i'm alone. that's pretty much it. & yes, i've a tendency to just let me thoughts drift abt randomly, & i do hv a bad temper, i admit..
of course there won't be a right/wrong answer to this. it's life. shit happens. but am i alone? if i am, then well.. this sucks lmao.

yukio · 10-09-2008, 10:41 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by ursie
	dude i'm not perfect.. i just hvn't met someone who'd accept me completely for who i am. i thought i did, but well. he broke more than one promise to me. i've had enough, & well, we all deserve more than that. the guys that i've been interested so far (just a couple of them) are cowards. neither dare to own up to what they did. :\ my first love interest was a wonderful person.. sadly he's gay & well, alr has a significant other, so yeahh. no regrets though. i'm cool w/ people being open & all, but hey, i don't see a reason why he had to get all judgemental & like OH YOU SHLD DO THIS, IT'S WHAT I THINK IS RIGHT, when he has no grasp whatsoever of what i went through or even who i am. sure, share yr thoughts, & even give a few useful words of wisdom, but don't f*cking diss someone.

What did they do and make them dare not to own up? hmm maybe things like he is also trying to date your close friends not only you? but he say he didn't when you try to ask?

In the past, I only advise my ex gf and let her know my opinion about what is she going to do, yes I will tell her if I were her I wouldn't do it bla bla bla and after all she is she so she have a choice to make and no matter what I will support her. I'm ok with that.

But the problem that lies with me is that if she just go ahead with the things she wanted to do and I advised her before and she tell me she regret it, I really can't get over it and tend to whine, lol i gotta change on that.

For the people "oh you should do this, it's what they think is right" then I guess those people are more or less geeks or don't have their own opinion because if someone have their own opinion they wouldn't go around trying to brainwash people but they will advise them instead.

I don't really hate mamaboys or people listen to their parents after all they are our parents and we have to give them respect, to them respect means doing what their parent want them to do and to some of us here respect means listening to what they have to say and make our own decision, after all we are living this life not them, as long as they have a roof above their head, food to eat, see their children living a upright life they are happy already.

Ahh.. so after all I guess you should try to get to know someone better before being that person's gf?

ursie · 10-09-2008, 10:54 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by yukio
	What did they do and make them dare not to own up? hmm maybe things like he is also trying to date your close friends not only you? but he say he didn't when you try to ask? In the past, I only advise my ex gf and let her know my opinion about what is she going to do, yes I will tell her if I were her I wouldn't do it bla bla bla and after all she is she so she have a choice to make and no matter what I will support her. I'm ok with that. But the problem that lies with me is that if she just go ahead with the things she wanted to do and I advised her before and she tell me she regret it, I really can't get over it and tend to whine, lol i gotta change on that. For the people "oh you should do this, it's what they think is right" then I guess those people are more or less geeks or don't have their own opinion because if someone have their own opinion they wouldn't go around trying to brainwash people but they will advise them instead. I don't really hate mamaboys or people listen to their parents after all they are our parents and we have to give them respect, to them respect means doing what their parent want them to do and to some of us here respect means listening to what they have to say and make our own decision, after all we are living this life not them, as long as they have a roof above their head, food to eat, see their children living a upright life they are happy already. Ahh.. so after all I guess you should try to get to know someone better before being that person's gf?

i thought i knew them well.. the first one i've known since grade 6, & the other since late january.. i'm not gonna go into detail since it's a looong*ss story, but i'll just say this: i don't see why someone wld promise their special someone smthg they know they can't give, & not just once, but repeatedly, at the cost of hurting that special someone. it just doesn't make sense. ignoring that special someone out of nowhere when they go back on their words just makes it worse. i want someone honest, reliable & realistic, not a coward. everyone deserves better than that unless they're a coward themselves, then it's a perfect match.

i don't mind advice actually, even though i wasn't asking for any.. i just didn't see the reason why some people had to be so judgmental when they've no idea who i am & just assume that oh, she must be some idiot who hasn't looked in the mirror etc. etc. i've my personal reasons for thinking men are assholes.. well, some men anyways, i guess (& hope).

yukio · 10-09-2008, 11:06 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by ursie
	i thought i knew them well.. the first one i've known since grade 6, & the other since late january.. i'm not gonna go into detail since it's a looongss story, but i'll just say this: i don't see why someone wld promise their special someone smthg they know they can't give, & not just once, but repeatedly, at the cost of hurting that special someone. it just doesn't make sense. ignoring that special someone out of nowhere when they go back on their words just makes it worse. i want someone honest, reliable & realistic, not a coward. everyone deserves better than that unless they're a coward themselves, then it's a perfect match. i don't mind advice actually, even though i wasn't asking for any.. i just didn't see the reason why some* people had to be so judgmental when they've no idea who i am & just assume that oh, she must be some idiot who hasn't looked in the mirror etc. etc. i've my personal reasons for thinking men are assholes.. well, some men anyways, i guess (& hope).

at least you know the word realistic and know that they are not realistic enough.. hmm from your age group, I think that the guy is not really matured yet so.. that should be the answer..

relax.. slowly.. take your time and find... dont have to be so desperate to be attached just slowly take your time to find your match better than try out lor.

ursie · 10-09-2008, 11:10 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by yukio
	at least you know the word realistic and know that they are not realistic enough.. hmm from your age group, I think that the guy is not really matured yet so.. that should be the answer.. relax.. slowly.. take your time and find... dont have to be so desperate to be attached just slowly take your time to find your match better than try out lor.

OH NO, see that's the sad & scary bit. they're both around the age of 24. :\

& no i'm not desperate; i'm not the type of person who just jumps into a relationship.. i'm just disappointed that my trust in them has been misplaced.

..they both do hv uhm. issues though. one got cheated on thrice in a row, the other got his heart broken after a serious 3 yr relationship where they lived together & even had puppies. -.-

**Samuel!ME!** · 10-09-2008, 11:13 PM

haha.. interesting topic.. sum man are assholes yes.. some girls are assholes 2.. tts life.. but everything happens 4 a reason? i dunno.. like most ppl would say.. ur young.. and there are still many ppl 4 u to meet in life.. but i guys arent all assholes although probly many ppl are.. haha

and most of the ppl replying 2 the thread are guys? haha..

ursie · 10-09-2008, 11:18 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Samuel!ME!
	haha.. interesting topic.. sum man are assholes yes.. some girls are assholes 2.. tts life.. but everything happens 4 a reason? i dunno.. like most ppl would say.. ur young.. and there are still many ppl 4 u to meet in life.. but i guys arent all assholes although probly many ppl are.. haha and most of the ppl replying 2 the thread are guys? haha..

i know, how ironic is that lol. but yeah i agree.. & still no one's said if they're in the same situation as me or not.

**xiao pi gu** · 10-09-2008, 11:41 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by ursie
	haha there never was any licking! don't get the wrong idea 'kay.

i was hoping there will be

**Samuel!ME!** · 10-09-2008, 11:59 PM

well.. i would say yes? cuz everybody has a part of them which would be considered as an ass to sum.. but the thing is u accept it or cant? well.. tts wad i think at least..