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**.:punkie-star:.** · 19-12-2007, 11:47 AM

There's this guy who likes me since last year. But I dun. Then once I accepted him but felt that I really dun like him so I initiated a break up. He felt heartbroken I guess. So he kept pestering me and I ended up avoiding him. He would sent countless of sms to me everyday but I never replied or simply made up excuses.
Becos I dun reply him, he started approaching my friends asking them to help him. Help him by asking me why I dun want to reply him. That makes me very frustrated. Fortunately, my friends will still help me. But some of them will start to spread rumours. =(
What's most terrible is that both of us will be in the same class for a course next year. I cannot imagine what the atmosphere will be like. I dun even want to talk to him...

**sgelite** · 19-12-2007, 12:19 PM

Avoiding, Ignoring and other forms of cold non talking treatment will not really solve any problem. It may get worst instead. If you simply cannot talk to him face to face, you may reply him via sms, online chat and emails - where you will communicate directly your intention of not furthering the r/s. Since he will be in the same class on the next course, you can suggest to remain as friends rather than ignoring him.

You may say that it might be misleading to him but I think the sooner you make your point and maintain your stance I am quite confident that even a "block head" will eventually get the hint too.

**MelvinLee** · 20-12-2007, 09:19 AM

If you dun like him, just tell him lor, or tell him to give up, that so easy, or call your other friends to tell him, just so EASY

**Peuan Sanit** · 20-12-2007, 11:45 AM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by .:punkie-star:.
	*There's this guy who likes me since last year. But I dun. Then once I accepted him* but felt that I really dun like him so I initiated a break up. He felt heartbroken I guess. So he kept pestering me and I ended up avoiding him. He would sent countless of sms to me everyday but I never replied or simply made up excuses. Becos I dun reply him, he started approaching my friends asking them to help him. Help him by asking me why I dun want to reply him. That makes me very frustrated. Fortunately, my friends will still help me. But some of them will start to spread rumours. =( What's most terrible is that both of us will be in the same class for a course next year. I cannot imagine what the atmosphere will be like. I dun even want to talk to him...

If you did not like him, why did you accepted him in the first place?

By doing so, you are giving him false hopes.

You just explain to him that since you are still studying, you would want to concentrate on doing well in your studies rather than have a relationship.

**icyOrange** · 20-12-2007, 02:55 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by MelvinLee
	If you dun like him, just tell him lor, or tell him to give up, that so easy, or call your other friends to tell him, just so EASY

easier said than done. maybe for u its easy but i doubt it is for her.

**Toxic Insanity** · 20-12-2007, 08:33 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by .:punkie-star:.
	There's this guy who likes me since last year. But I dun. Then once I accepted him but felt that I really dun like him so I initiated a break up. He felt heartbroken I guess. So he kept pestering me and I ended up avoiding him. He would sent countless of sms to me everyday but I never replied or simply made up excuses. Becos I dun reply him, he started approaching my friends asking them to help him. Help him by asking me why I dun want to reply him. That makes me very frustrated. Fortunately, my friends will still help me. But some of them will start to spread rumours. =( What's most terrible is that both of us will be in the same class for a course next year. I cannot imagine what the atmosphere will be like. I dun even want to talk to him...

the most u can do is avoid him.. and wait for him to forget u .. hope it helps.

	Quote:			Originally Posted by MelvinLee
	If you dun like him, just tell him lor, or tell him to give up, that so easy, or call your other friends to tell him, just so EASY

IF IT WAS SO EASY SHE WONT HAVE POSTED AND ASK FOR HELP !.

**anberlin** · 20-12-2007, 09:19 PM

i am a guy...and i think he is immature...i guess you both are still young..why the hurry for him...? he should just let it go...

**infinitylub** · 21-12-2007, 05:20 PM

Then let nature take it's course. Maybe one day he touch your heart.

**dawgbyte** · 23-12-2007, 10:31 PM

If you don't like him, you should not have accepted him. If a guy did that to a girl, its called "playing with her feelings". The least you can do is give him closure by talking to him.

**Hirakawa** · 23-12-2007, 11:32 PM

You should not accept him at the beginning when you don't really like him.

The only way to keep him from pestering you is further break his heart.

**toh_3312** · 23-12-2007, 11:51 PM

maybe you can request for a change in your class .

Happy.Lee · 24-12-2007, 12:15 AM

don't need change class la, being in the same class would be better because that would give you a chance to just sit down and sort things out.

**rudeboyfiz** · 24-12-2007, 01:42 AM

well.. stand up for ur right... when he sms u, reply to one of hys msg.... telling hym nicely tat u dun like hym and ask hym to forget u and tell hym to get a life.. hmm. maybe tat should help..

if he kept on pestering u, i tink u should tell ur parents so tat they will tell hym off.. if not, its tat easy.. just report to the police... case under forcing something2.... ((:

**Shyraiiyann** · 24-12-2007, 02:18 PM

first thing you have to learn is rejection. to reject others,

if you dunoe how to reject ppl that you do not fancy,
you end up giving alot of hopes,
and will end up with more problems of such

pacrish · 24-12-2007, 03:06 PM

yea i got reject by a girl and i never disturb for for ever.... so sad waaaaa ROARrrrrrrrrrr