how do u maintain contact with netfriends? - Singapore's Online Community

**xueren** · 19-04-2007, 03:49 PM

has anyone encountered this problem?feel you have chemistry with this net friend but after meeting,the party stopped contacting you alike in e past when he used to sms or msn with u daily.Does it mean that the person dislike u or its just that after the meeting, the person doesnt like u and is no longer curious or interested in u?:handsup:

and if you are interested to maintain contact with the person over the net?how do u do it,especially when you know him through the net.do you guys find that it is hard to nurture long-lasting friendships with net friends?its like they will forget about you if you havent been online for a long time unlike friends you know from real life who still sms u occasionally to keep in touch,send regards and update u about their lives

snoozy · 19-04-2007, 03:53 PM

ermmm. TS .. you open 2 similar threads.

Anyway.. back to topic. I got the same experiences as you. Last time when i was playing irc.. i did meet netfriend, but meeting.. he was damn friendly.. we chat alot but once met up .. the end. You msg him , he wouldnt reply, it like a hint.. he is not interested in you.. or he jus wan to make fren with pretty and sexy girl. If no reply.. i wouldnt bother to msg again. Why waste time on this kind of ppls.

As for maintaining the friendship.. sometimes i will chat wif them on msn or sms. We dont always meet.. but our friendship still the same.. cos we know .. one another is busy with works.

**rocky** · 19-04-2007, 05:01 PM

meet in a group

**frostysurfer** · 19-04-2007, 06:02 PM

Perhaps that net friend had very high expectations of you or u have led him to believe that you are someone not worthy of your own descriptions. Either way, being sweet/pretty or chatty/friendly is different in others perception.

I ve managed to keep contact with net friends for 8 years already. So far so good! Though we dont meet up often, its still working fine!

**finaldust** · 19-04-2007, 07:11 PM

I think netfriends r more easy to maintain bah just online chat bah easy to maintain bah even u gone for a few days they also wont complain bah i make quite a lot netfriends bah

**xueren** · 20-04-2007, 06:35 PM

but he once said maybe we can go out and watch movies or go cycling when we are free next time and then no more contact liao...but does he alreadi mean it or just fu yan?haiz..sadly,,,making friends over the net is always based on looks one..

**Lethia** · 20-04-2007, 07:03 PM

netfriends? hmm.. most probably keep in touch with sms or online chat lor. So far, those ppl i've met are good ppl, not some bastard who try to get girl to be fooled on..

and some of my net friend also my best friend ~ we share lots of things~

snoozy · 20-04-2007, 08:17 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by xueren
	but he once said maybe we can go out and watch movies or go cycling when we are free next time and then no more contact liao...but does he alreadi mean it or just fu yan?haiz..sadly,,,making friends over the net is always based on looks one..

Dont be sad over this kind of ppls... if he choose not to keep in contact.. then let it be.. there are still alot of ppls around that you can make fren with.

* btw.. u living in thomson.. which part? me live around thomson area too

**icyOrange** · 20-04-2007, 09:36 PM

IMO, friends come and go. No offence but i feel that real friends are the ones who will be by your side in time of need or not. For me, i will only consider someone to be my friend if they are really sincere and honest. That way i rarely lose my circle of friends. I do have lotsa netfriends too and plenty more from other countries esp UK and US but i dont get too attached to them. i wouldnt wanna get upset w/o any real reason..

lol. and trust me, having small circle of friends who are sincere and honest is way better than have lotsa friends who doesnt really show care and concern.

**toh_3312** · 21-04-2007, 12:37 AM

For me , its was rather hard to maintain a good relationship with net friends , We tend to have so little common ground to talk about.... That after a few week of chat via msn , thats it no more contact ......

Soupdude · 21-04-2007, 01:18 AM

sometimes i guess u juz cant click wif certain ppl.. nothing in common for u to share ur interest in.. i dun rly like meeting strangers >.< toOooOOoOoOoO SHY!! maybe in groups still ok lah.. or juz hope i be crazy enuf to do stupid stunts >.<

as for netfriends.. well we went far enuf to send postcards and small stuffs.. couldnt meet up since we gotta fly real far.. and timezone difference makes us see each other online less.. its nice meeting ppl of different culture sometimes.. u get to share and learn alot

i dun rly have much friends though.. can tell from my msn contact list and friendster list >.< but i certainly do have good ones that i fully place my trust in..

**Shyraiiyann** · 22-04-2007, 01:38 PM

NET! i onli met once, 3 of them were friends, and he- became my boyfriend! hahahahas.

i dont believe in meeting, i prefer keepin it this way, unless the net chemistry is reali so damm strong, even after seein each other's friendster u still look forward to meeting him! personally, if i nv meet em, we will contact thru msn, ocassionally saying hi, or sharing problems.

sometimes its better to share ur woes with people who know NOTHING much of you, that way, the advice given is always very powerful, strong, and true.

funnysnow · 22-04-2007, 01:46 PM

If the person stop contacting you after meet up, obviously he/she is not interested in u..

**sihwee** · 22-04-2007, 01:49 PM

i dont see the point of having net frends even. lol
afterall they are only net frends lah.

and yea, if the person stops contacting u after meeting up, means he's not interested in you.

**virgoqing** · 22-04-2007, 02:46 PM

i meet one net friend. its bad experience.. we know each other thru irc then get along really well.. he starts to keep calling me lao po, darling all sort of things. but i dun do tt to him. just dun really believe it.. but somehow i feel myself getting attached to him after having chats in the phone. we eventually meet up and chat for a long time. after tt, he gets busy with sch work.. lesser sms n msn chats. but we still meet up a few times..seems going very well. but in the end, just found out tt everything was fake.. he hint so obviously tt he likes me thru phone and meet ups.. eg. hugs me to slp, holding hands. but one day, my ex demand an explanation. and he say he did not love me at all. he even have a gf le. even if no gf, he will also nv ever love me.. manz.. hurts my heart deeply. cos i think i already love him by tt time.

but i still gt a few netfriends which i get along very well.. most of them slowly losing contact cos nothing much to talk about le.