Artemis86

I believe some of you girls experience this scenario before - A guy has been trying to woo u...he may be a friend or friend's friend or juz some acquaintance...then maybe u give him a chance and u both went for 1st date. However at the end of 1st date, u felt that he's not wat u wanted or no chemistry etc. U just knew it wont work out...

so here's the deal....how r u gonna tell him that? Since some of us dun wan hurt the person's feelings esp if he's a friend..

and maybe guys can share how they wanna be let down nicely??? LOL

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stvlai83

Actually i rather the girl reject me directly, like we can only be friend something but don be too cruelly la. So i wont develop an empty love and mess with my own mind think whether the girl like me or not sort of thing.......

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rocksteady

just jack him in the nuts with your knee. decisively.

-Emii-

lols i actually have a friend who rejected the guy but still giving him false hopes. i dunno whether she like him even though she rejected him =\ oh well~
yup i just tell him i'm sry but still good friends better than none (:

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stvlai83

Never ever give a false hope to the person u cant love.... is a cruel thing n might get both of u hurt!!!!

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AhBinBin

It will be best after the 1st date then tell him straight. Something maybe like "I wanna just stay as fren" or something as long as he get what you mean.

Please dun give false hope... I just felt that you are totally wastering the guy's time...

Just Personal opinion...

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hooolahoop

just tell the guy he is nice and everything, but you don't feel the chemistry going on?

nimbus

just reject. no nid to be apologetic or any fancy excuses.
take it like a man. lol.

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rocksteady

they may not admit it by girls ENJOY being chased lah.. come on... even ugly guy chase, have better than don't have. tell you to **** off = cut off her 'pleasure' of feeling that she is attractive? damn contradicting one lah.

wan, dun wan, wan, dun wan... I have seen guys suffer because of that crap.

that's why I said, just jack his nuts DECISIVELY, don't leave anyone hanging.

but you know why they won't do it? got people admire you, you attack them meh? surely no what.. it's flattering to the ego. (but here's the clue... girls don't want to be with someone who admires them. They want to be with someone that they can admire).

so... those clueless guys suffer. the stupid ones rush out buy gifts, run errands for the girls, keep the gift shops running with business so that they can buy more offerings for their 'goddesses' who just refuse to hurt them once and for all... because these losers cater to these girls' ego with gifts and attention. that's just how the world works.

water-sprite

I am straight-forward when it comes to this...

"I'm sorry but I think we're better off as friends"

or

"We just don't have that kinda chemistry"

Short, sweet & simple.

The stupid ones are those who knowingly still do all the errands and gift-buying even when they know she's attached.
Guess what? Men can't resist the forbidden fruit.... yum yum....

rocksteady

The thing about rejecting guys nicely with words: some guys just DON'T GET IT. (those who run to the shops to buy gifts type of guys)
so, no need to talk. just jack them in the balls. they WILL get it. LOL.

one thing about gifts... if you buy gifts to reward your gf or wife or mistress or some other female to REWARD them for appreciating you for being with you, for loving you... that's great and worthy. IF you are buying a gift just so that you hope a girl will like your gift = like you... you are pathetic and you need to wake up.
Even if you buy her a $32,000 Franck Muller, and she becomes your gf for a month, a day, etc... it is NOT because she likes you. Simple as that.

water-sprite

There's probably 2 kinda guys who splurge on the girl in this case.

#1 : The one who thinks money or gifts can win her affection.
Probably like in the much infamous case of the 48K for study loan that was published in TNP.
Guy at losing end, Girl gains.

#2 : The one who sees it as a business transaction.
I buy you Gucci, you satisfy me sexually and I bring you out and show off to my friends.
Win-win for both sides.

darkkRUII

I try to tell him nicely..

rocksteady

both are fools. I say get the girl on your ability. not using money. besides.. not really win win. the girl just becomes a form of prostitute. would you want to be with a girl that you cannot respect? not me.

so, if they are together... only superficial and shallow. as you said... some kind of lowly transaction. ditto the girls who go with the men for the money. I have seen a lot of such girls. Literally they are transparent. nothing inside.

now, I only look for girls who are well-geared on their own. either they have a good job that pays well, or they are running their own business. empty but pretty vases are too numerous on the streets already. waste of time.
still must maintain, give money, allowances, attention, etc. lazy leeches. tired.

water-sprite

Already mentioned that it's like a business transaction.
He gets the sex, she gets the money.
It is win-win because both parties are satisfied unless things don't go the way they intend it to. Like maybe girl gets the luxury goods, guy gets nothing in return. (getting played out)

The men don't care for their feelings, they only have one motive. Sex.
The girls are willing parties themselves too.
So yes, no demand no supply.... Who's to blame?

I must also add that there's an increasing no. of young men looking for sugarmummies too.
Oh well, times have changed.
Got money, got talk....

stvlai83