How Many Feel that Your Parents Just Don't Understand Teenagers? - Page 2 - Singapore's Online Community

Stuoid_Panda · 11-10-2008, 12:28 PM

although they go through wat we go through b4 but that doesnt means they understand us...

like freedom....during their time is not encourage to giv freedom to their kids but now need giv so they learn n know how to survive......as things r diff n they cant teach everything as teens need learn themself n not repeat their mistake....

this is important for guys as they need go through NS......as it teach them be independent n not mummy boy.......

jus my 2 cents =)

**MyNameCoffee** · 11-10-2008, 12:53 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by twink221
	my mother is okok. i think depends on her mood, and whether she bothers to understand.

aqreed

	Quote:			Originally Posted by kura
	i think i vote for the wrong one... i voted true... shld be partially xD xD well at least for me... =-= my Teens years was a waste.... i always say this to my friends n they will ask "y?" lock in house like a bird after school no freedom at all.... den go to nearby shopping mall oso need to be like ninja hide ard =-= no BOY de friends... must be girls i have something to counter this actually muahahaha no anything till after OLVL is done =-= tt includes owning a HP go downstairs oso have to report to my parent ma i m going down for wad? =-=a i even remember i got caught for using IRC n then no computer/TV for the rest of days.. till dec holiday now i m old liao... yes i do appreciate the 50% of freedom that my parents gave me but.... i still having curfew? =-= every time i go out with my friend ... i m always the one who ended everything early make everyone go home so early.. as my cufew is like 11pm... i m 20!!!! :EEEEE when ppl know i have curfew.. they will go "WAD?! u how old liao.. still have curfew..." some of em even laugh =-=.... but i always replied "i m already happy tt i can go out with u guys.... not asking for more already" den they :o n try to understands... everyone knows i have very strict parents o-o;;; n for those teens out there... it thinks parents spoils em so much like... asking for wad they wan...n blah i have to save my own to get something i wan.. or.. score really really well to get something ~_~ i have to agree with u.... some parents wont wan to have such scenario like parents bring up the children so hard n the children go mix wif bad companies.... n got a lot of stuff like gang fight n blah blah... in the end it is not the children who is suffering it is the parents who is suffering... IMO

mine is the lenient version of yours. cant have male friends who call my house ( they call hp parents wont know LOL ) hp and comp ii still can enjoy `
after school come back must call her to report . go out also call and report . go down buy thing also report. when ii wan go out she will sae ii everytime go out .. but i'd never created any probs when im outside with my friends ` ii just cant understand why she hates to let me go out so much , except with my cousin `
im the only one who must roll back home early too ` next time ii should try going out in morning and come back at evening / a bit later then it doesnt seem like i've gone out for very long `

	Quote:			Originally Posted by darkkRUII
	I voted for Yes, because the genearation gap is kind of huge, and sometimes, they just do not understand. Even thought they were once teenagers, what they did in their generation and what we are doing now is really different. They may have hard times and good times, but it os different from what we are doing now. For example, they may have had harsh and strict parents, and so they think that they should bring their children up in that manner too. There are worse, like parents who are stuck in a time warp. Even though some try their best to understand their tennage children, it does not work all the time. Perhaps the lack of communication and understanding is also another factor that builds a wall between their understanding of teenagers.

agree `

sometimes , just got to accept it ` im on holiday now and she doesnt encourage me to find job far away from home ` like im staying in jurong west ` but there's vacancy for a job in sembawang . she sae its far ` cos last time i was working in JE` and ii said ii wanna change environment & explore ` ii noe its far . but if im going to carry on looking for jobs that are near my house , i might nv get a job ` = . =

qood luck everyone `^^

Stuoid_Panda · 11-10-2008, 12:59 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by MyNameCoffee
	mine is the lenient version of yours. cant have male friends who call my house ( they call hp parents wont know LOL ) hp and comp ii still can enjoy ` after school come back must call her to report . go out also call and report . go down buy thing also report. when ii wan go out she will sae ii everytime go out .. but i'd never created any probs when im outside with my friends ` ii just cant understand why she hates to let me go out so much , except with my cousin ` im the only one who must roll back home early too ` next time ii should try going out in morning and come back at evening / a bit later then it doesnt seem like i've gone out for very long `

agree

some parents think that it the same as when they were young.....it not safe outside......but if u keep ur kids in hole........they will not learn things...end up they do stupids stuff instead.....outside world need to be explore......so that we know wat is wrong or right..

also important for guys as wat i say in my previous post...NS...

cause i see lots of guys who r not independent n donno wat to do when in camp.....

**jewlreya** · 11-10-2008, 01:03 PM

I voted partial. My dad is the more understanding one and allow free speech and always trying to learn from my brother and I. My mother on the other hand seems to concentrate more on her beliefs and insist that we should do things her way. But that only happens sometimes. My parents are quite modern when it comes to things like shopping, etc. My brother and I had to stop the both of them from buying. It's almost close to a 180 degree switch in our roles in the family.

Lol.

I think my parents are good.

**paperLEO** · 11-10-2008, 01:17 PM

i voted partial.
my parents give me much freedom, they allow but discourage me to stay out too late.
allow me to decide what i do everyday.
they don't go against what i do but jus voice their opinions unless it's something really really foolish.
they cook great breakfast and dinner

occasionally asks me about my friends
i guess it's ok to buy my things since i save up but usually when go out is take $10 frm them lol
it all changed to this aft my pri sch era ended haha
BUT
everytime when i tried to argue about their opinions or jus pass a little remark on their opinions it seemed like i've been a really bad son... oh yea... and they love to make me feel guilty or bad by saying "ok lo, u think this is right then you do lo, we wont interfere..."

**Lancelot** · 14-10-2008, 08:27 AM

The one and only reason why some parents are unable to understand their children (or teenagers) is solely because the damn kids don't even understand themselves. I'm sure some parents understand their children just fine. But some babies are just so blindingly stupid that they make the understanding difficult at times.

I am not a parent, but I feel their frustration when their children forges ahead with obviously stupid decisions in their lame stubborn ways just because they want to prove some non-existing point.

**mspiink** · 18-10-2008, 08:18 PM

I feel that my mum quite understand me. Maybe cos my mum and my age gap not that big (21 years diff). And some of the songs i listen to she also listens.

I used to think my mum don't understand, but as i grew up i sort of knew what my mother meant. Cos i and my mum can see "my attitude" in my sis as well. Quite funny seeing it. x]

**Zelgadis** · 26-10-2008, 04:09 AM

I vote for neutral. My parents doesn't understand me or anything. My mum's mindset is still as stubborn and traditional as ever. Nothing is changed after all these years. My family has already spiltted into 3 kingdoms (like san guo zhi). My mum & dad one kingdom, me & my younger bro 1 kingdom each. Basically, each of us do our own stuffs rather than as a family cause to avoid any unwanted scoldings or misunderstandings.

**bananaz_mecha** · 02-11-2008, 02:19 PM

they understand the internal stuff. but not the external. i mean, every human goes through the same phase (psychologically) and it never change. like when teenagers, they will have a crush on people, etc. Emotionally, they understand; but changes in era exist, so sometimes parents are a bit 'lost'.

enigmasam · 02-11-2008, 05:23 PM

It depends on the upbringing of the parents.... I've seen really open parents who totally understands the children. But also, seen parents that go like, "What the hell you doing outside until now?! Its bloody 7pm in the evening!". Well, its also thanks to the people out there who spoil the children that the parents get all that ANAL about stuffs about the children.

cute wormz · 02-11-2008, 05:30 PM

personally..i think most teenagers are not letting their parents understand them, of course the parents will want to understand their child better, but normally teenagers tend to give a 不耐烦 attitude to them when they ask abt ur life....

**xiao_wawa** · 09-11-2008, 03:20 PM

I voted for true and very true.

My parents don't understand me at all. It's always my mother who will kpkb when i came home late. I was wondering how my father can tahan her for so many yrs.

For example.. When i'm still outside around 1 plus, they already bombed my hp with many calls asking me where am i, so late still haven't come back, and even forced me to take a cab home when i always want to be with my bf longer. Once even want to ton at mac with my bf till the nxt morning then slowly take a bus back but still they wanted me to fly back home by cab. I'm already mature yet they still treated me like a small kid. And when i fly back home by cab, my mother will start to kpkb and wants to chase me out of the house. What's worng with her that i can't be out late. If she gone berserk and makes me berserk too, i will sure leave as I have thought of "li jia chu zhou".

Stuoid_Panda · 09-11-2008, 05:22 PM

i hav a living example of my friend...even her sister r against her

**bananaz_mecha** · 10-11-2008, 08:07 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Lancelot
	The one and only reason why some parents are unable to understand their children (or teenagers) is solely because the damn kids don't even understand themselves.

i found this true. teenagers are not emotionally static and they still find out who they are. that's why they're hard to understand (i mean.. we are. ahha)

**Shi Yuen** · 10-11-2008, 08:10 PM

i vote partial.
sometimes they are kinda irritating, when u wanna explain something to them they just don't listen.
sometimes they always think what they are doing is right when they are actually wrong.