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**tear** · 13-09-2007, 11:46 AM

if u quarrel or have misunderstandings with ur bf/gf... would u tell r frens? how often will u tell them? almost every misunderstanding that u have? or just when u cant take it? how many frens will u tell? would u tell ppl whom u are close to, but believe that they'll most prob tell ur other close frens too?

**emilkyway** · 13-09-2007, 01:44 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by tear
	if u quarrel or have misunderstandings with ur bf/gf... would u tell r frens? how often will u tell them? almost every misunderstanding that u have? or just when u cant take it? how many frens will u tell? would u tell ppl whom u are close to, but believe that they'll most prob tell ur other close frens too?

sometimes i would tell 1-2 of my close friends about it. as in not all my quarrels/misunderstandings.. but those i feel that are of a major status. & im pretty sure they wouldnt tell others about it, cuz they're quite a good secrets keeper too! besides.. they also share with me their secrets. hehe

**COcksteRD** · 13-09-2007, 02:24 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by tear
	if u quarrel or have misunderstandings with ur bf/gf... would u tell r frens? how often will u tell them? almost every misunderstanding that u have? or just when u cant take it? how many frens will u tell? would u tell ppl whom u are close to, but believe that they'll most prob tell ur other close frens too?

Same, I'd at most tell my close frens only. Why even bother telling other friends whom u'd probably know will laugh at u? But seriously, find those close frens who had had relationships before or currently, whether they're having happy endings or sad endings:cry3:
As for how often ... it might be a nuisance to relate every single happenings, so just say it out when u feel vexed, true frens will understand and will most probably try their best to console u, if not give constructive suggestions to u. And of coz, if u think that the frens u intend to tell the matter to, are gossipers or cant really keep secrets, then dun tell them, unless u really dun mind him/her leaking your secret matter to other friends.

**Sweetie_pie24** · 13-09-2007, 02:39 PM

i only tell 1-2 frens...
why bother telling so many ppl?
I'm someone that always keep things to myself.. so i'll only tell when they see me unhappy and they ask. if not, most of the time i won't say one cos i seldom have big quarrels with my bf..small small ones i sure won't say one....
if u think ur frens won't keep the secret for u then u dun tell ba.... rather than tell liao they go spread around...

**phindol** · 13-09-2007, 02:46 PM

yep totally agree with all the comments.
dun tell everything, imagine you are the person. u like yr friend come tell u abt every single thing abt what u and yr bf does meh? quite weird though to tell them everything. and yes i tell them when i am quite stressed up or i really dunno why my bf do certain things. den i ask my close friends loh(neutral ppl ma). =)

and of cos i wont want so many unwanted ppl to know abt my own problems. so i wont tell ppl whom i know will gossip or leak out de.. think i will be more stressed up and vex if i tell a person and it cause more probs. so i agree with choosing who to tell and who not too. most importantly why u choose to tell them ya? to share yr burdens and get some constructive advises and some encouragements or listen to what they have went thru , etc mah. if this is it, then u should noe who to find or what to do le loh. =)

**p0125772** · 13-09-2007, 02:52 PM

i only will tell briefly to my god sis..but i will tell everything to 1 of my net fren who i never see b4 de..i feel tat telling someone who will not meet my gf or me de then i will feel more open to tell her...

**COcksteRD** · 13-09-2007, 03:07 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by p0125772
	i only will tell briefly to my god sis..but i will tell everything to 1 of my net fren who i never see b4 de..i feel tat telling someone who will not meet my gf or me de then i will feel more open to tell her...

LOL, net friends are nice to tell secrets to except for things such as bank accounts, internet passwords those kinda things.
Hmm....net friends to tell secrets to...sounds so much like the Jap Drama, "Densha Otoko"...:biggrin4:

**Sweetie_pie24** · 13-09-2007, 03:08 PM

oh yes.. i also want to add in that i dun tell everything abt my bf to my frens also becos i dun wan my frens to see my bf differently or use another 眼光 to look at him...
so those misunderstanding or small small things no need tell one...

**PiDanBeR** · 13-09-2007, 03:18 PM

will only shared with those that can give me comments or advice... of coz will tell my best friend too... as they r the most understable and can advice better type to me...

**Shyraiiyann** · 13-09-2007, 03:23 PM

I will share it with ONE of my friend,
only that one single guy who is my bestie.
He also si beh alot of problems with the gf one, and everytime he calls he'll talk abt the gf n him problem.

But i wont listen to his advice wan. hahas.
i just treat him as a listening ear, at the end of the day,
how i feel, and my decision, etc, will be my choice.

sometimes when ur really vexed and troubled,
got somebody to lissten really very nice,
so no matter how irritated i am with my bestie's problem,
i'll just listen, just like he'll listen to mine. hehe

Mehda · 13-09-2007, 04:42 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Sweetie_pie24
	oh yes.. i also want to add in that i dun tell everything abt my bf to my frens also becos i dun wan my frens to see my bf differently or use another 眼光 to look at him... so those misunderstanding or small small things no need tell one...

haha.. i totally agree with you =D
sometimes if i got really mad, i'll tell my net friends.
normally i wun tell my close friends or even besties 'cos tell them also no use, just lend a listening ear & they also tend to keep things to themselves.

**p0125772** · 13-09-2007, 04:46 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Sweetie_pie24
	oh yes.. i also want to add in that i dun tell everything abt my bf to my frens also becos i dun wan my frens to see my bf differently or use another 眼光 to look at him... so those misunderstanding or small small things no need tell one...

yes tats the point which is why i don like to share too much of my problem wif my frens..somemore we will go out and play mahjong quite often..at least share wif net frens feel much at ease...

but ya lah of cos will not share bank acc etc de..hehehe...

**killtheblackkat** · 13-09-2007, 05:44 PM

by right, a relationship involved only 2 parties directly. whoever gives comments on the relationship are just outsiders. my POV is that you can tell people and seek opinions or advises, but then make sure the story you are telling is not one sided. else it wouldnt be fair to the other party. another thing is also have to ask the other party if he/she is alright with you telling people bout you 2's situation. mutual respect very important:mellow3: