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**inle** · 01-07-2008, 06:29 AM

How Do I Make Him Love Me - Dating Advice For Women

By Gillian Reynolds

One question that almost every woman asks herself at some point is "how do I make him love me?" It's usually borne out of a relationship that feels somewhat one sided. You may have just started dating a man that you've fallen head over heels for or you two have been together a while and you're questioning his true feelings. If you do find yourself doubting the feelings of the man you adore, there are a few things you can do that will encourage him to feel closer to you.

A common complaint among men is that the women they date or are involved with love to nag. I know that I've been guilty of it at times as have close female friends of mine. Nagging doesn't necessarily have to be about chores. If you are constantly asking your man what he feels for you, or why he isn't committing to you, he'll absorb this as nagging too. When I was asking myself the question how do I make him love me, I knew that my nagging had to come to an abrupt stop.

Confidence is one quality that men are crazy about. Men love women who aren't always trying to figure out where the relationship is going. If you are involved with a man, relax and enjoy the experience. Never talk about marriage or exclusivity. If he does happen to ask you why you aren't interested in a commitment, tell him that you're not ready to be serious about anyone. That one statement can instantly make a man fall head over heels. Men love things they don't have control over, so ensure that you always remain confident and in control of your own self.

The most important thing to consider when you are wondering how do I make him love me, is your own self of self. Too many women are ready, willing and anxious to change who they are to fit the criteria of a man. If he happens to like short hair on women, and you love your long hair, don't cut it. If he prefers dresses and you feel more comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt, don't invest in an entire new wardrobe just for him. Men will love you more if you don't bend over backwards to please them. Always remain true to the woman you are and you'll stand a much better chance of winning his love.

Specific things you say and do can make a man feel helplessly drawn to you. If you are convinced he is the one there are things you can do to ensure he only has eyes for you.

**ix0r4** · 01-07-2008, 11:15 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by davidkwankk
	Men love things they don't have control over, so ensure that you always remain confident and in control of your own self.

Is that true? That men love things they dont have control over?

**Hirakawa** · 01-07-2008, 11:27 PM

If someone said I love you to me, I will be very surprised and excited.

So, try to say I love you to the person you fond.

**AYUMI** · 01-07-2008, 11:36 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by ix0r4
	Is that true? That men love things they dont have control over?

That isn't always true. I guess most men dont like push-overs, especially in relationships. They might get annoyed and start bullying the woman even more. But then again, being too stubborn or head-strong might be a big turn off as well.

water-sprite · 01-07-2008, 11:56 PM

We talk too much, they say we nag.
We don't talk that much, they say we have change of heart.

LOL!

**happily1986** · 01-07-2008, 11:56 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by ix0r4
	Is that true? That men love things they dont have control over?

the candy in the other kiddo's hand always seem more delectable than yours. Likewise, stuff that is harder to get always seem to trigger your desire. It just lives on as an recurring in life cos it's hardwired in us.

**inle** · 02-07-2008, 01:53 AM

for most men, it s the hunt tats excite them(cos they r instinctive hunters since the cavemen time)...
the harder the hunt, the more precious s the game to them, the more excitin it will b, proven tat this breed of men r confident enough to play tis game...

the rest r jux weaklings...
who will jux whine....
or become possessive due to insecurities n lack of self confidence...

**Loukezxv** · 03-07-2008, 07:41 AM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by water-sprite
	We talk too much, they say we nag. We don't talk that much, they say we have change of heart. LOL!

agrees!!

when i talk a lot... telling him thing.. he say i like to nag..
so i stop... i angry..
when i stop talking... he ask y i never talk??

is it i feel boring with him? is it i got nth to say to him? on & on & on...

shypineapple · 03-07-2008, 07:50 AM

just tell us what's on your mind, don't keep everything to yourself. is that simple =)
more girls comment leh XD

**Artemis86** · 03-07-2008, 10:09 AM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by davidkwankk
	[b][size="5"] Men love things they don't have control over, so ensure that you always remain confident and in control of your own self.

Hmm interesting... maybe thats why last time girls like to use 'hard to get' method with the guys they like...and it did seem to work in that time. However i thought nowadays the trend is for girls to be proactive and not to play games with the guys they like?

Cuz if the girl always try hard to get...or go hot and cold...don't the guy get confused and may even think she does not like him n give up??

	Quote:			Originally Posted by davidkwankk
	The most important thing to consider when you are wondering how do I make him love me, is your own self of self. Too many women are ready, willing and anxious to change who they are to fit the criteria of a man....... Always remain true to the woman you are and you'll stand a much better chance of winning his love.

This is very true! I think if u girls try to fit into the mold that the type of girl whom ur guy like, then he'll b loving u for WHO U R trying to be, instead of who U REALLY R! And its terribly tiring to keep up an act for...years or months...wat if u suddenly slip up and he wonders why u act like this so different from before?

I think its the same for guys lor. Do u guys like to be someone u r not in order to impress someone u like??

That said, i think being self confident and being true to yourself is very much interrelated. When u love urself and confident of urself, u will not want to shortchange urself just for someone else no matter how strong the feelings are. Its only when u feel less certain of yourself, - ur good qualities, that u want to become someone else, thinking that this is the way to attract someone u like.

Well i'm not a guy so i'm not too sure whether this advice is effective. Maybe guys, u can give us ur opinions~

**inle** · 03-07-2008, 01:40 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Artemis86
	Hmm interesting... maybe thats why last time girls like to use 'hard to get' method with the guys they like...and it did seem to work in that time. However i thought nowadays the trend is for girls to be proactive and not to play games with the guys they like? Cuz if the girl always try hard to get...or go hot and cold...don't the guy get confused and may even think she does not like him n give up?? This is very true! I think if u girls try to fit into the mold that the type of girl whom ur guy like, then he'll b loving u for WHO U R trying to be, instead of who U REALLY R! And its terribly tiring to keep up an act for...years or months...wat if u suddenly slip up and he wonders why u act like this so different from before? I think its the same for guys lor. Do u guys like to be someone u r not in order to impress someone u like?? That said, i think being self confident and being true to yourself is very much interrelated. When u love urself and confident of urself, u will not want to shortchange urself just for someone else no matter how strong the feelings are. Its only when u feel less certain of yourself, - ur good qualities, that u want to become someone else, thinking that this is the way to attract someone u like. Well i'm not a guy so i'm not too sure whether this advice is effective. Maybe guys, u can give us ur opinions~

i dun think i tried my best to change myself n impress the gal i like even durin courtship...
if the person like the way i m, then it will b good enough..
else u will change to a diff person, droppin all the good habits n impressive stunts after courtship, then both parties will get confused over the changes n things mite jux turn sour...

**ix0r4** · 05-07-2008, 11:24 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by water-sprite
	We talk too much, they say we nag. We don't talk that much, they say we have change of heart. LOL!

AGREED!! LOL~