violette

Ansley Ng
ansley@mediacorp.com.sg

WHEN his two children spoke of sending him to an old folks' home after his vision waned in July, retiree Peter Chan (not his real name) tried getting a job, thinking it would make them change their minds.
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But the 69-year-old — who was then living alone in a rented room — could not even fill up application forms correctly because of his poor vision.
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His two children — a son and daughter in their 40s — said they were busy and could not take care of him.
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Afraid that he might hurt himself if he lived alone in his condition, his children left him at the Geylang East Home for the Aged in Aljunied Crescent two months ago.
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Defeated and disappointed with his children, Mr Chan, who is divorced, took some time to get used to living there. The home has 34 residents, 24 of whom were found sleeping in the streets by social workers.
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"I already felt lonely living outside on my own. I thought this was worse," the quiet, bespectacled man told Today in Mandarin. "But what can I do? I have to accept my fate."
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Since then, Mr Chan has made friends at the home and spends his time playing games and singing karaoke. He looks forward to Tuesdays, when he meets his former schoolmates from Chung Cheng High School for lunch and tea.
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Despite this, Mr Chan still has problems understanding why his son — a lawyer living with his wife, two young children and mother-in-law — could not take him into his semi-detached home.
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He is also sore that his children pay the home $500 a month and do not give him an allowance.
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Said Mr Chan: "They said they will only give me money after I have drawn out all my CPF savings."
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But the former civil servant said he does not need the money and would be happier if his children just realised that all he wants is more time with them.
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"Whenever I call them to find out how they are, they tell me they are busy — then hang up quickly," said Mr Chan. "Money and work are not everything. Family ties are more important."

http://www.todayonline.com/articles/155434.asp

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micxiao

nowadays, more people are career-minded liao... then not so much family ties...

i think it's because the children also think it will be troublesome and there don't want to take the effort

violette

aww, so sad~
yes, nowadays some ppl dun really treasure family ties like wat micxiao mentioned...
but without our parents, we would be here either~~

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Sheng4Eva

ya ... its so sad to hear this kind of story ... so u all next time must not like tt treat ur parents ... for me .. i definitely will not treat them like this

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FTW

micxiao

in singapore, everyone's busy all the time...

is a stress lifestyle...

violette

yes, with the face moving pace in sg and hetic lifestyle we are in, we will somehow neglect the loved ones ard us~

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n_height

haiz, hopefully when i won't be like them when i'm older. :disgust2: but for people that treat their parents that way, i hope their children will treat them the same way too!

violette

yeah, i rem someone told me tat wat goes around turns around... aww~

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.phoenixity.

omg so sad. children getting worse now. *shake head

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