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**heartbreak** · 04-07-2007, 05:09 PM

Story goes like this,
My brother who is married man and he have involve with another relationship with his female colleague.... really hate him for doing that with my DA SAO.
The relationship not very long about 5 months. He ever tried breakup with her at about 2nd month relationship. Worse never succeed, cos the girl cried like hell and even threaten to end her life..

He very scare that she doing such things, so the relationship goes back. The girl know about his marriage and even telling him is ok and willing to wait for him. My brother had tried to pick up a quarrel but it seem that the girl remains slient or don't talk to him or change topics. She even buy clothing, wallet,..etc for him.

My brother now really don't know what to do leh.

I told him just ignore and don't care lor. He said can't as afraid the girl will make a scene in the office and he may have to lose his jobs.

Anyone have good excuses to help him to end this. I think he really regret for doing tat lor:confused2:

Soupdude · 04-07-2007, 05:51 PM

ur brother is in deep trouble.. there arent many much excuses u can use (or unless u r real darn creative) and the girl seemed too stubborn as well, even going as far as to threaten to end her life.

first of all does ur brother wife knows about this?? if not, then i suggest explaining everything and clearing everything up.. its definatly not gonna end nicely. it may not be a wiser option and ignoring the whole matter wouldnt help either

**sgalextoh** · 04-07-2007, 05:52 PM

WOW!!!!
Your bro really something leh....
Anyway just a piece of advice....
Quit the job and move on....
But before that, he have to really seat down and talk....
You may want to join in as well and talk things out with her....
Have to make sure that she gets the idea that your bro just want to be friends back instead of the relationship into her head and make sure she's won't kill herself....
Anyway it's against the law to kill other people N yourself as well....
you'll be charged and police case will be involded....

**Shyraiiyann** · 04-07-2007, 05:54 PM

if talk to her nicely still no use,
MIA.
change hp number, dont let her know anything abt ur da sao, like address etc,

if i'm him, i will first treat her coldly,
ignore her, treat her like transparent.
if can find another job, quit silently and disappear

**sgalextoh** · 04-07-2007, 06:08 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by Shyraiiyann
	if talk to her nicely still no use, MIA. change hp number, dont let her know anything abt ur da sao, like address etc, if i'm him, i will first treat her coldly, ignore her, treat her like transparent. if can find another job, quit silently and disappear

wow....
being so irespossible....
If someone do that to you, will you be happy anot???
got 1 more thing to add....
When ever in the office, only talk about work if your bro need to talk to her....
nothing else....
after work, do not make appointments with her and if she does, make sure it's with a group of college....
if she calls your bro at nite or some other time outside of work, do answer....
But tell her that he only 12 talk about work and nothing else....

**summerdreamer** · 04-07-2007, 06:20 PM

it's quite norm tt girls will threaten to hurt herself if a guy she loves attempts to break her up. but ulitmately over the time if the girl noes tt the guy no longer love him she'll start to accept the fact- the break up.

**Steven^_^** · 04-07-2007, 06:28 PM

in the 1st place why did it even happened,no point crying over spilt milk.Hope he can get over this soon.Cheers.

**heartbreak** · 04-07-2007, 07:44 PM

Well, I only know that he got to know her 1 month before he agreed to date with her. Cos the girl have a crash in him when 1st met him, and she approach him more frequent and then 1 month later she said that she like him very much and ask him to give her a chance even though she knew he married. My brother also like her initially, so agreed to date lor.
:speechless:
After that my brother knew that she even commit suscide before when her ex breakup with her...
Her ex not very good to her, like take money from her saving, fooling around, she still can accept... as long as her ex don't leave her.
:handsup:
Like that she still can take it, I really can't believe.
And she even beg and kneel to her ex boyfriend don't breakup.

So I think my brother is now very deep deep shit. What to do, he don't even know her background before started...
She come from rich family ba, stay in condo.
My brother even say why he can't be bad guy, if he is then can get more things and her and then breakup... I think mostly bad guy will love this type of her.:devil2:

**Shyraiiyann** · 04-07-2007, 07:49 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by sgalextoh
	wow.... being so irespossible.... If someone do that to you, will you be happy anot??? got 1 more thing to add.... When ever in the office, only talk about work if your bro need to talk to her.... nothing else.... after work, do not make appointments with her and if she does, make sure it's with a group of college.... if she calls your bro at nite or some other time outside of work, do answer.... But tell her that he only 12 talk about work and nothing else....

Anyway just a piece of advice....
Quit the job and move on

tts wad u said, besides, wad i suggested was after tellliln her she still dun 1 2 listen..
so u'll be happier being pestered la?
and think of the poor wife there.
this woman KNOWS the guy is married still wanna say things like wait for him etc.

she deserved it, she didnt treat the wife like a woman, why should she be treat as one then?

**Steven^_^** · 04-07-2007, 08:50 PM

chill it ppl,we are just offering our personal pt of views,no right or wrong answers ya? =)

**Ladyr4in** · 04-07-2007, 09:27 PM

Why Not u Urself try to call the girl n Speak to her?

And tell her evrything abt the fact that ur brother dun love her anymore?

**uyen** · 04-07-2007, 10:41 PM

my female friend also involved with in this,now she has moved on.That guy treats her very cold,changed numbers and she dunno anything about his wife or his address,i guess its easier.

**ayu_u** · 04-07-2007, 11:49 PM

wa. yr bro is another.. cheater. sorry if i am too direct in my words. i mean, he cheats at the back of his wife. marriage requires commitment!

anyhow, back to this issue. i think yr bro shd find another job and move on. this girl can get pretty emotional, so this can get kinda complicating, cos u nv noe what she will do.

try if can talking to her nicely and break it to her that this shd stop. but i have a feeling most likely will not work. alternatively, like wad uyen's fren's guy did, change number, change jobs, (move hse if need be?!) and avoid contact with her...

**lonerlost** · 04-07-2007, 11:59 PM

Your bro pro sia.... Wish him good luck lol.