vgohyk

Before you're in a relationship, what kind of a person are you?
Strong, decisive, etc?

After you're in a relationship, how have you changed?
Weak? Cry over the slightest thing? etc?

This is more for a lady to share her view.
However, in guys perspective, in what ways have your GF changed from your observants?

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For me, I think I've become weaker. Weaker in the sense that whatever he does, causes great impacts on me. I cry easily, tho' I don't wish to. Tears seem to flow down easily like running taps, which I can't control.

Sometimes I think I'm foolish in the way I react and all. But, I can't help it. :handsup:

Does it means that the more you love a person, the more you can't afford to lose him/her? Hence, whatever he/she does, even the slighest thing can make you feel uneasy?

burtonho1990

lol decisive =0

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vgohyk

can elaborate further? lol.
what are u refering to?? :mellow3:

sky5triker

Hello! my turn to reply to your thread, hmm.. generally I think I'm a decisive guy. Usually its me who planned outings for my friends and gf. I changed in the way I think and the way I view things. Its like I tend to view things from all angles, thus working out a solution. My perspective is, my gf did change, stronger? smarter perhaps? Through relationship, I think both parties will benefit in terms or knowledge and EQ.

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DJ Jabroni

i think its normal for a change. as the relationship goes to a higher level, there will be changes.

aphx8o

i believe changes within a relationship happens cause now instead of yourself, you have to deal with another person..

it might be due to adapting to one another..

vgohyk

Thanks guys for the comments. lol
Yes I do agree we will change. In fact, quite a lot.

Well, I need to hear from our ladies~

aphx8o

while in a relationship it seems that you have become weaker.. but when the relationship is out, then you'll become more hard.. cause fear of failing a relationship is there.. then its a whole new cycle when the right one comes.

Artemis86

Very true....i think generally..when girls enter a r/s..they'll let themselves rely somewhat on their partners..in terms of emotionally and psychologically...when their partners leave them or the r/s is gonecase, usually girls have 2 choices - 1 to be stronger and hardened their hearts against other guys..or 2. go through r/s and another r/s, afraid of being alone, being lonely and being without someone to love.

Frankly girls are more vulnerable..cuz we are more likely to be swayed by our emotions and feelings. Even more so in a r/s i believe- cuz u r alrdy letting urself falling for him or alrdy in love with him..u wan him to accept u, love u so somewhat u'll want to please him too..when love is there...e risk is BIG..n if he ever hurts u or betrays u...

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Artemis86

Before you're in a relationship, what kind of a person are you?
Decisive, independent, do things my way

After you're in a relationship, how have you changed?
think too much LOL. more emotional bahz...more willing to be less independent..but still needs alot of space.

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I'm not in any r/s now..but in my past r/s..i guess i tend to analyse my r/s alot..but still would rely on him for affections n try to please him lor. Thinkz communication skills n interpersonal skills still have to improve la. Hahaha Oh and got quite a few times of being insecure kind. Tats also why i prefer being single now...at lest i'd be secure in my life..in a r/s..not everything is secure or guaranttee.

Does it means that the more you love a person, the more you can't afford to lose him/her? Hence, whatever he/she does, even the slighest thing can make you feel uneasy?

Yahz of cuz. The more u love someone, the more u want to be with him/her for as long as possible. That's if u love him/her truly. But if u r in a r/s with him/her alrdy n love him/her n vice versa, he/she'd try best to reassure u of his/her love...n as time pass, u shld be more secure in their love n vice versa. but of cuz if he/she suddenly does smth out of normal, e fears will come agn.

so if u r in a new r/s or beginning, n u feel threatened by any of his/her actions, its quite alrite..n shld tell him/her abt it. if u r with him/her for a long time le, n still feel this way, i think there's smth very wrong le..and both of u shld try 2 find out e root cause.

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fuyumi

I think I have. I use to be very strict about everything and I had expectations that i'm very focused on but after knowing my bf, I learnt to be more flexible, patient and accepting of other people's flaws.

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Shyraiiyann

i think before being in a relationship, everyone is not contented de.
want this, want that,
after being in a relationship, even a phone call can make me smile the entire day.. maybe onli me lar. :love4:

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