For girls : How to turn off a guy whom you don't like - Page 2 - Singapore's Online Community

**MamaRos** · 30-10-2006, 12:16 AM

Eeeeeeeeks!!! :speechless: There ARE crazies of both sexes in this world. Mentally unstable people who somehow got a fixation on YOU being their ideal gf/bf. They will stalk you and leave all kinds of gifts and/or notes at your workplace or home. Scary, right?:freakedout:

It's hard to tell if someone is just being determined in getting to win your heart or if that person is a mad person. You have to be discerning le...

**.phoenixity.** · 30-10-2006, 10:12 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by fuyumi
	Cos I was recently told by a friend about a guy who has been going after this girl for many many years refusing to give up. It has come to an extend that she just gets more irritated and he seem emotionally unstable.

LOL sounds really familiar to me. =/ happening to me leh~ lol

**tracia21** · 31-10-2006, 01:27 PM

gosh.... that sounds scary worx.... hmmm... maybe the guy keep having the thinking that "with my sincerity, my act n patience will touch her heart.." hmmmm

**fuyumi** · 31-10-2006, 01:29 PM

If you ask me, such people are just MAD!

**tracia21** · 31-10-2006, 06:04 PM

hmmm depends u wooing the right person anot bahx... haha... my sincerity touches my bf (used to be my ex bf .. hee)

**deedee** · 31-10-2006, 06:56 PM

that time this guy also... stalking me online, in irc, in email etc... after that first meeting (as posted in another thread) luckily nv send me home ah!!!

somemore he can tell me he very "chi-qing" one cos he's been secretly loving this gal for 2 years nonstop although she didn't treat him nice at all...

i so wanna tell him... if that's the case, why can't u continue to "chi-qing" to her and stop pestering me!!

i used the meanie way to get rid of him... very bad of me and i still feel not right abt it but it's over le. heh~

**violette** · 31-10-2006, 08:48 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by deedee
	that time this guy also... stalking me online, in irc, in email etc... after that first meeting (as posted in another thread) luckily nv send me home ah!!! somemore he can tell me he very "chi-qing" one cos he's been secretly loving this gal for 2 years nonstop although she didn't treat him nice at all... i so wanna tell him... if that's the case, why can't u continue to "chi-qing" to her and stop pestering me!! i used the meanie way to get rid of him... very bad of me and i still feel not right abt it but it's over le. heh~

heng arr, if u let him send u home, die... u dunno wat u will expect when u reach home sia.. so scary..

he called himself chi-qing arr??? LOL.. tis type of guy no need to xin luan de... just use watever tatics u tink to of to get rid of him..

**MamaRos** · 31-10-2006, 09:03 PM

Honesty is the best policy even though the truth always hurts.

It is best NOT to be so accomodating to a guy you do not like. Treat him as a human being, with respect but there's no need for you to be particularly nice to him because you feel 'guilty'.

Another cliche, 'Do unto others what you want others do unto you' will remind you never to lie or put up false pretences as eventually you'll find yourself caught in 'a web of lies' whereby you cannot extradicate yourself.

One lie leads to another and another and whether you believe it or not, the guy will be sure to know you have lied to him soon. He will feel angry, not because you are a liar but because you take him for a bluddy fool. No guys like that and he will walk away from you but with condemnation in his heart for you. If he feels really rotten about being made the fool, he might even think of some nasty revenge on you.

Tell the guy honestly and in a kind but serious tone that you are not interested in him romantically. If he persists to be your friend, tell him to respect you to CHOOSE your own friends. Now, this sucks of course but if you want to know, he might feel embarassed but because you speak to him in a no-nonsense manner, he knows you mean business.

Why some girls always have guys harassing them could be because they were not serious enough to tell the guys off. Giggling is not seen as 'serious'. You have to put your foot down when handling people and if you do it gently you won't really offend anyone.

**deedee** · 31-10-2006, 09:08 PM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by MamaRos
	'Do unto others what you want others do unto you'

yea... the law of reciprocity... treat ppl like how u wanna be treated, and "己所不欲，勿施于人". my philosophy of life~~ keke.

anyway yea i did it the meanie way cos i figured simply "turning him off" won't work... i think i sorta hurt his ego... which is why i think it's mean of me. i guess it really hurts a guy a lot to hv his ego bruised. :handsup:

**MamaRos** · 31-10-2006, 09:30 PM

When I was young, I found it soooo hard to say 'No'... I guess with age, I not only become riper but hardened as well. :mellow3:

I guess it's easy for me to talk, but if I am in your shoes at your age, I'd probably react like you...now that sucks! :notimpressed2:

**ic3st0rmer** · 05-11-2006, 12:10 AM

well, sometimes you just have to be firm but in a respectufl manner la...

becus if you dont like him but accepted him, certainly smells trouble...