My5tiCaL

Okay.. here's another qn...

say X(male) likes Y(female) for ~1yr+... then they get together.. then for like 1mth+, then after tt Y tell X that they cant go on... not meant to be... so X very emo... coz is like he still haf feelings for Y but vice versa is not the case... or at least he thinks is not.... X is still waiting for a day they can be together... but how will X be able to get over Y? here's the catch... X and Y see each other everyday so hard to bury feelings.. then X has no reason to hate Y...



Any suggestions? lol... this is juz a scenario... might be true in some cases with the only difference being the time...

Jacko

sometime. when "things" is not urs. no point having.

emo? some how he will have to get over it. cos it can't be avoided =)

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Jerks tat hack into ppl's hotmail/etc... deserved to be wacked like no tmr...

My5tiCaL

any suggestions how he can get over it? especially in this scenario where both X and Y no choice see each other everyday e.g in school/at work kind of thing? and X has no reason to hate Y...

TotalNV

hmmm..... i always believe that time will heal all pain... it's just a matter of time.

you know, maybe X can try the extreme... like for girls, they will cry and cry until no more tears, and more often than not, it'll be faster in healing. but for a guy, well.... go for a drink and get drunk... have friends with you to pour out all your sorrows and pain.... like dat maybe the healing process will be faster.

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My5tiCaL

would love to hear more suggestions..

yunise

Time is the answer.. =)

Everyone admits that love is wonderful and necessary, yet no one agrees on just what it is.

corp25

puppy love i guess

well.. as what yunise said.. let time takes its place
slowly X will forget about Y

i'm once in that scenario..

inle

X n Y was into the goin 2 get married kind of relationship????

i think jux move on...
if feelings not there, means not there....
no need 2 self pity or hated the other party...

even if they dun see each other everday, the one who lingers on will always see the other in the mind...
it s more than physical distance but rather emotional thinkin at play here....

Artemis86

I think the best approach for the time being is to avoid Y. Let X start to let his feelings fade for Y by occupying himself with other things in life such as studies, his own hobbies or friends that do not include Y.

In this way, by distractin himself & avoiding Y, there is less chance of X to think of Y or see Y hence there is greater probability X can move on

Another approach is to meet more girls and go on dates. Hahaz remb its juz dates not relationship...but just to let X meet more people and know that there are other potentials out there.

heez, not sure if this helps much. Juz my 2 cents

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HyperLink

Very Hard >.<
Unless X Found Another New GF
But Same Thing , Hard >.<
Everyday Meet , They Just Have To Try Bump Into Ea Other Lesser , As In Outside Class .
Time Heals ^.^
Or Y Find NEw BF , x Might Finally SI Xing Le ^.^

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I think depend on how deep X love bah.

to fall in love is always easy
to start a relationship is always simple
to build it, is always tough
to maintain it, is 'better said than done'
to break off, is 'easier said than done'
to remain friends after u broke off, is never possible
to forget the memories is 'always doing but never succeeding'
to heal the pain within is hard and tough and never near simple
but one has to try to heal your own heart...

My5tiCaL

lets say.. X love very deep... deep until he still want be with Y... then like if Y sad then he oso sad.. when ppl disturb Y, he oso heart pain for Y...

sgelite

Actually, you already have an answer (a blatant one in fact), just that it isn't the answer you seek, although it is an answer that answers all your questions.
You don't need advice - you merely need decision.
If you keep harboring the possibility and desire of a relationship (BGR or non-BGR related), you are just going to bang yourself against the wall.
Learn to respect - if she hates your presence in her life, then exercise the wisdom to walk out of her space and find the life and love that's truly yours.

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pweeapw

I agree with what Artemis86 and sgelite says... with a few more things to add... X has got to realize that love doesn't necessarily mean being together... you can love someone and yet not be together with him/her... also... X has got to ask himself... is that really love or just the need to be with Y (which is a certain form of selfishness)...

I guess there isn't a single sure fix solution... some people distract themselves... they pick up a hobby... hang out more with friends... etc... and it works... for others, it's just a way of hiding till they reach home (you can't get pissed drunk everyday for the rest of your life can you?!?)... turn off the lights for the day and the feeling comes and smack them across the face (there's a reason why there's this saying... 'you can run... but you can't hide')... and they feel the sting of it...

part of the fix might include...
- realize where you are in the situation (is there hope? or are you just holding on to thing air?)
- respect (both her feelings and her decision... that is something that's required in love too)
- decide (whether you want to keep on suffering or move on based on the other factors... but remember... it doesn't mean that she's suffering just because you are...)

diesopain

Avoiding Y is not a practical solution because it doesn't solve anything....engage activities can distract X from thinking of Y but its only temporary effect....besides they are in a situation whereby both of them ll' meet each other in the office or in the classroom...so in this kind of situation talking things out is the best way if Y seriously doesn't like X then juz tell X how she feels....remains as friends....or regard him as a brother.....this way both ll' feel better...

inle

love v deep????
u meant X s lookin 4 a propectin wife already????
or he already want Y to be his wife????
or jux 1 2 b a Romeo n play wz romance???

i think it s puppy love which r jux not real love yet....
i dun really trust youngster nowadays when they proclaimed about true love cos they haf not really been opened up to the real world n real pain in the real world yet....

i think it s more like obession n refusin 2 let of....
something like a leech, emotionally n phschologially stalkin Y....