Five surprising reasons men are happy in a relationship

funnysnow · 13-10-2006, 01:13 AM

Five surprising reasons men are happy in a relationship.

Don't be fooled by the male ego. Men look for more
in a relationship than an attractive women who will
cook him a good meal and wash his clothes every
once in a while. What he really needs is your
admiration.

He needs to communicate with you
A lot of men need to be in a relationship more than
women do. Surprising? Not really, when you think
about it. Women usually have close relationships
with their friends. They talk about health problems
until they feel better. But men don't. As Helen
Fielding's character, Bridget Jones, says, 'Women
have emotions and men have football.' Men are
competitive and so, in general, they rarely share
their emotions or problems with each other, as
they think it makes them look too weak. When he
needs to open up and talk about his feelings,
guess who he eventually shows his vulnerable
side to? You!

He wants to be your hero
Knowing that he can make someone else happy
makes him feel good inside, because he has the
power to change things. And what bloke doesn't
secretly want power of some sort? At least if he
can't always be top dog at work, he can be a star
at home. Instinctively, he aspires to be Spider-Man
or Superman – to be your hero, to be able to make
things right: to be appreciated, to be someone's
knight in shining armour. So when you are
disappointed or unhappy, he feels responsible.
What matters is that you are happy and then he's
got one less thing to worry about. Strange but
true.

He strives to make you happy
The number one reason men leave relationships is
because they feel as though they can't meet their
partner's needs. This makes them feel inadequate,
and it makes them feel as though there's no way
their partner can feel respect for them. For
women, communication seems to be the top
priority in keeping the relationship going – but, quite
honestly, men don't understand this constant need
to talk about things over and over.

For men, the relationship is a success if they feel
respected and if they make their partner happy.
This is why a new conquest is exactly that – he
feels as though he is in charge – he is once again
someone's knight in shining armour.

If you resent him because you feel overworked
and under-appreciated, stop doing so much – you
are probably destroying your relationship! He
doesn't want to feel responsible for you rushing
around, worn into the carpet, and most men really
don't notice whether the housework has been
done or not. What they want is respect and
appreciation. 'All we really want from women,' a
(male) friend recently told me, 'is for you to smile at
us.' (And probably one other thing, if he thought
about it for longer than a millisecond.)

S*x makes him feel loved
*** has the same effect on men as romance does
on women. So the reverse is also true: no *** = no
love, no approval, no acknowledgement. They get
that same sad, unloved feeling that you get when
you don't get flowers, your partner looks at other
women or ignores you.

You are his (secret) reason for living
He needs you because you inspire him to do
better – he has someone to do things for, goals to
reach, a reason to go out and conquer the world.
What's the point of being disgustingly rich and
powerful if there's no one to share it with? What
he needs is the gift of you.

**sassygirl_** · 15-10-2006, 12:35 AM

dammit. no sex no love, a bastard.

funnysnow · 15-10-2006, 11:56 AM

sex make a guy feel love. quite true actually..

**HUIXIAN** · 15-10-2006, 01:42 PM

i do agree with xing that sex do make a guy feel loved.
but well,to a certain extend :>

**.phoenixity.** · 16-10-2006, 12:53 AM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by sassygirl_
	dammit. no sex no love, a bastard.

LOL~!! :biggrin4:

i like the last paragraph~

**shin-kyo** · 16-10-2006, 10:00 AM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by sassygirl_
	dammit. no sex no love, a bastard.

LOL!!!

**sassygirl_** · 16-10-2006, 10:21 AM

ya lah. to a certain extent only lor. but i do have to admit lah, sex do add sparks to the relationship. it could be real cheeky ed times. teehees*

**porcelaindoll** · 19-10-2006, 02:04 PM

He wants to be your hero
He strives to make you happy

I agree! Because of their ego mah...

**deedee** · 19-10-2006, 02:10 PM

i think it'll be good to read "men are from mars, women are from venus" to know what the opp sex really wan in a r/s... cos i read and learnt a lot from it. keke~

funnysnow · 19-10-2006, 02:33 PM

maybe can tell us more..

**deedee** · 19-10-2006, 03:31 PM

ok basically the book begins with that long long ago, men lived in mars, and women lived in venus. these are 2 very different places and these habitants have very different cultures.

on mars, martians do not offer each other help unless asked. when being asked, a martian will offer solutions to the qns. if a martian didn't ask for help, the others assume that he's ok and trust that he's coping well by himself. and martians love to solve their own problems without interference from another.

on venus, venusians love to help one another. they willingly offer help to one another without being asked. venusians don't really ask for help. when they are down, the others will auto come and cheer her up. venusians give without being asked. they can sense unhappiness, and they'll try to help and console.

martians and venusians met, fell in love and lived happily together. one day, they migrate to earth and suddenly all got amnesia... and forgotten that they originate from different planets with different cultures. they start to expect each other to think like themselves and but they are ultimately very different! so there's a lot of frustrations.

when woman upset, man dun auto cheer her up cos she didn't ask him. if she talked abt it, she just want to feel better after he listened, but he'll offer solutions instead of consolations. cos man instinctively thought that u r asking for solutions when u talked to him. woman is unhappy cos man dun console her. man is frustrated cos he tried to help her but she's still unhappy.

when man upset, woman tried to help without being asked. she kept asking him what's wrong? why he unhappy? and he felt very annoyed by her cos he just want to be left alone. then when he didn't ask and she tried to offer help for his problem, he felt that she doesn't trust him to solve the problem himself. he is not happy. woman think man is damn ego. man think woman is naggy and annoying.

so ultimately men and women should realise that they are very different and think differently, respect the differences and seek to understand each other better. when woman knows that man is like that one, woman won't get so upset cos she understand that he is different. when man knows that woman is like that, man know she's just caring to him when she tried to help, and won't feel so frustrated and annoyed by her.

there are lots more things discussed in this book, so i think the book sort of help us understand the opp gender better, and it only works if both read. cos if u read and become very understanding, but your bf/gf nv and still always frustrated, so it's just u giving in and after a while also u'll get sian one right? then like that not helpful already.

k lah, so much for a sneak preview. will cross post in the thread abt this book. haha~ cheers!

**fuyumi** · 19-10-2006, 03:43 PM

Mmmm... I don't mind reading it. ^^ It can also allow us to understand the other people around us better too.

**deedee** · 19-10-2006, 04:06 PM

yea!! and now it sorta makes me a r/s guru like that... LOL~ always giving advice to other ppl when they ask for my opinion... haha~

13-10-2006, 01:13 AM	#1 (permalink)
funnysnow Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 8,399 iTrader: (1) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Singapore SGC$: 802.68 Bank: 0.17 Total SGC$: 802.85	Five surprising reasons men are happy in a relationship Five surprising reasons men are happy in a relationship. Don't be fooled by the male ego. Men look for more in a relationship than an attractive women who will cook him a good meal and wash his clothes every once in a while. What he really needs is your admiration. He needs to communicate with you A lot of men need to be in a relationship more than women do. Surprising? Not really, when you think about it. Women usually have close relationships with their friends. They talk about health problems until they feel better. But men don't. As Helen Fielding's character, Bridget Jones, says, 'Women have emotions and men have football.' Men are competitive and so, in general, they rarely share their emotions or problems with each other, as they think it makes them look too weak. When he needs to open up and talk about his feelings, guess who he eventually shows his vulnerable side to? You! He wants to be your hero Knowing that he can make someone else happy makes him feel good inside, because he has the power to change things. And what bloke doesn't secretly want power of some sort? At least if he can't always be top dog at work, he can be a star at home. Instinctively, he aspires to be Spider-Man or Superman – to be your hero, to be able to make things right: to be appreciated, to be someone's knight in shining armour. So when you are disappointed or unhappy, he feels responsible. What matters is that you are happy and then he's got one less thing to worry about. Strange but true. He strives to make you happy The number one reason men leave relationships is because they feel as though they can't meet their partner's needs. This makes them feel inadequate, and it makes them feel as though there's no way their partner can feel respect for them. For women, communication seems to be the top priority in keeping the relationship going – but, quite honestly, men don't understand this constant need to talk about things over and over. For men, the relationship is a success if they feel respected and if they make their partner happy. This is why a new conquest is exactly that – he feels as though he is in charge – he is once again someone's knight in shining armour. If you resent him because you feel overworked and under-appreciated, stop doing so much – you are probably destroying your relationship! He doesn't want to feel responsible for you rushing around, worn into the carpet, and most men really don't notice whether the housework has been done or not. What they want is respect and appreciation. 'All we really want from women,' a (male) friend recently told me, 'is for you to smile at us.' (And probably one other thing, if he thought about it for longer than a millisecond.) Sx makes him feel loved has the same effect on men as romance does on women. So the reverse is also true: no * = no love, no approval, no acknowledgement. They get that same sad, unloved feeling that you get when you don't get flowers, your partner looks at other women or ignores you. You are his (secret) reason for living He needs you because you inspire him to do better – he has someone to do things for, goals to reach, a reason to go out and conquer the world. What's the point of being disgustingly rich and powerful if there's no one to share it with? What he needs is the gift of you. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

15-10-2006, 11:56 AM	#3 (permalink)
funnysnow Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 8,399 iTrader: (1) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Singapore SGC$: 802.68 Bank: 0.17 Total SGC$: 802.85	sex make a guy feel love. quite true actually.. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

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deedee deedeelicious Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 565 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: West SGC$: 91.30 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 91.30	i think it'll be good to read "men are from mars, women are from venus" to know what the opp sex really wan in a r/s... cos i read and learnt a lot from it. keke~ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ I'm a fat ass, motivate me! ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡

19-10-2006, 02:33 PM	#10 (permalink)
funnysnow Experienced SGClubber Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 8,399 iTrader: (1) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Singapore SGC$: 802.68 Bank: 0.17 Total SGC$: 802.85	maybe can tell us more.. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

19-10-2006, 03:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
deedee deedeelicious Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 565 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: West SGC$: 91.30 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 91.30	ok basically the book begins with that long long ago, men lived in mars, and women lived in venus. these are 2 very different places and these habitants have very different cultures. on mars, martians do not offer each other help unless asked. when being asked, a martian will offer solutions to the qns. if a martian didn't ask for help, the others assume that he's ok and trust that he's coping well by himself. and martians love to solve their own problems without interference from another. on venus, venusians love to help one another. they willingly offer help to one another without being asked. venusians don't really ask for help. when they are down, the others will auto come and cheer her up. venusians give without being asked. they can sense unhappiness, and they'll try to help and console. martians and venusians met, fell in love and lived happily together. one day, they migrate to earth and suddenly all got amnesia... and forgotten that they originate from different planets with different cultures. they start to expect each other to think like themselves and but they are ultimately very different! so there's a lot of frustrations. when woman upset, man dun auto cheer her up cos she didn't ask him. if she talked abt it, she just want to feel better after he listened, but he'll offer solutions instead of consolations. cos man instinctively thought that u r asking for solutions when u talked to him. woman is unhappy cos man dun console her. man is frustrated cos he tried to help her but she's still unhappy. when man upset, woman tried to help without being asked. she kept asking him what's wrong? why he unhappy? and he felt very annoyed by her cos he just want to be left alone. then when he didn't ask and she tried to offer help for his problem, he felt that she doesn't trust him to solve the problem himself. he is not happy. woman think man is damn ego. man think woman is naggy and annoying. so ultimately men and women should realise that they are very different and think differently, respect the differences and seek to understand each other better. when woman knows that man is like that one, woman won't get so upset cos she understand that he is different. when man knows that woman is like that, man know she's just caring to him when she tried to help, and won't feel so frustrated and annoyed by her. there are lots more things discussed in this book, so i think the book sort of help us understand the opp gender better, and it only works if both read. cos if u read and become very understanding, but your bf/gf nv and still always frustrated, so it's just u giving in and after a while also u'll get sian one right? then like that not helpful already. k lah, so much for a sneak preview. will cross post in the thread abt this book. haha~ cheers! ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ I'm a fat ass, motivate me! ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡

15-10-2006, 12:35 AM	#2 (permalink)
sassygirl_ the lady speaks* Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 65 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: yishun SGC$: 166.50 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 166.50	dammit. no sex no love, a bastard.

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HUIXIAN ddrumstick Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 5,854 iTrader: (-1) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Singapore SGC$: 74.83 Bank: 719.83 Total SGC$: 794.66	i do agree with xing that sex do make a guy feel loved. but well,to a certain extend :>

16-10-2006, 10:21 AM	#7 (permalink)
sassygirl_ the lady speaks* Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 65 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: yishun SGC$: 166.50 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 166.50	ya lah. to a certain extent only lor. but i do have to admit lah, sex do add sparks to the relationship. it could be real cheeky ed times. teehees*

19-10-2006, 02:04 PM	#8 (permalink)
porcelaindoll 公主 Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,333 iTrader: (0) My Mood: Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: far far away SGC$: 421.20 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 421.20	He wants to be your hero He strives to make you happy I agree! Because of their ego mah...

19-10-2006, 03:43 PM	#12 (permalink)
fuyumi Ice Princess Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 5,211 iTrader: (28) My Mood: Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: Eastern Tranquinity SGC$: 111.30 Bank: 1,098.37 Total SGC$: 1,209.67	Mmmm... I don't mind reading it. ^^ It can also allow us to understand the other people around us better too. To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

19-10-2006, 04:06 PM	#13 (permalink)
deedee deedeelicious Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 565 iTrader: (0) Gender: Zodiac Sign: Country: Location: West SGC$: 91.30 Bank: 0.00 Total SGC$: 91.30	yea!! and now it sorta makes me a r/s guru like that... LOL~ always giving advice to other ppl when they ask for my opinion... haha~ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ I'm a fat ass, motivate me! ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡