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**Thdirtydream** · 28-03-2008, 09:56 AM

My bf in remand in 3weeks in coming out today, and prolly he will be sentence to 2 yrs probation. On the other hand, i hardy feel the passion i had for him before he went in.
We have been tgt for 6mths. This 6 mths is as if im feeding him. Bad memories

When he was in there, first week was touturing. But after that i got over it.
Now i'm tangle in situation that, i started to develop feeling for this other guy.
And on the other hand, he also claims to fall for me. I find it rather confused, becors i dont know he's real self and also partly he's a person i just knew.

-ADDTIONAL.

Now things are gettng more confused.
My bf talk to me, and i admitted i dont love him as much anymore. He told me to go find other guy as he wont give me a good future. I feel bad. And very very very confused.

On the other hand, that guy just patch with his ex gf.

Now, im like both side also lost. And its causing a stir in myself.
I start to feel so helpless. I dont know if i still love my bf, cors its been 3 weeks i have talk to him.
That guy, seriously just shut down my heart.

Thansk people XOXO

**PiDanBeR** · 28-03-2008, 10:01 AM

People tends to have likes/interest for a particular person when the other half is not by his/her side... It may not just be 'love' but something like 'likes'... Ask yourself, do you still love your bf? If no, then tell him and don't let him 'hanging on' to it... It's unfair for him, or you too...
As for the 'new guy', try to get to know him more... I believe it may be just mutual feeling for him, rather than love for him... Times can prove... =)

**wetdreamx** · 28-03-2008, 10:09 AM

lol.. typical.. i've got nothing to say.. many girls just go away while their bfs are in this or that..
be in NS, RTC etc.. just wanna say, your love can't even overcome lil' obstacles in life.. bye bye..

**hooolahoop** · 28-03-2008, 10:10 AM

i don't really get what's going on with your bf (what's remand?), so can't really help you with that. but you said "bad memories". so if you don't have feelings for him anymore, i think best is you let go, before he turns obsessive or something. but then, don't jump straight into another relationship (with "the other guy") yet, because you still don't know him well. also, it might make your bf thinks that it is because of the presence of this guy, that made you break up with him, causing more problems and issues. take time to know that guy well, before deciding he is the right one for you. the time will also give you some space to clear up your feelings for your bf (:

**TotalNV** · 28-03-2008, 07:03 PM

i can't say whether you started developing a liking towards the new guy which resulted in your loss of feelings for the old one. in some cases, this is the main cause of it... since the absence of your old one is pretty long.

for someone who is remanded and put under probation, what do you think will be the future for him, and of course, to the both of you as well.

give it a thought and ask yourself whether you still love the old guy... but the new guy should not be the primary reason for you to give the former up. you should only do this because you think there is no future for the both of you.

**Thdirtydream** · 28-03-2008, 10:05 PM

Thanks all, my that bf, came out alrdy. But i fear apon talking to him.
It seems like i dont know who is he alrdy. And those bad momories includes using a big lump sum from my acc and not telling me or informing me.

As for the other guy, we are confused.

**MiRyung** · 28-03-2008, 10:54 PM

You have to ask yourself... Do you really love your bf?

If you really do.. your heart wouldn't be so easliy tempted by another person. No matter how far apart you're from your significant other, if your love is true and strong.. there is no worry about a third party.

**Sonic Bear** · 29-03-2008, 01:34 AM

Just follow yr heart .....

**BlacknWhite** · 29-03-2008, 01:41 AM

This is why army guy dun wanna fall in love when they're in camp

**sarcastic** · 29-03-2008, 06:22 AM

only for 6 mths, tok like machiam 6 year liao. heehee

ur heart changed le juz admit it.
since changed le, then make it clear for everyone, dun drag or else everyone suffer.

**-Rokugatsu-** · 29-03-2008, 06:37 AM

But your bf still using your money?
If yes i don't think this kind of guy is worth for you to be with.
Seriously, i once had a bf like yours, no money still want to go out and play.
I paid for his transport, meals and everything he wants to buy.
Mocked by my friends that I'm feeding him. Doesn't feel good,
so i can understand u why u are confused for falling with someone else..

**sarcastic** · 29-03-2008, 06:42 AM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by -Rokugatsu-
	Seriously, i once had a bf like yours, no money still want to go out and play. I paid for his transport, meals and everything he wants to buy. ..

i agreed such guys are no gd but there is sumting i'm confuse.

at tat time, when both of u are in love, u willingly to pay for him. everyting can.
then when heart changed le and u r bringing this out as an excuse for break up?
tatz lame.

**-Rokugatsu-** · 29-03-2008, 07:04 AM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by sarcastic
	i agreed such guys are no gd but there is sumting i'm