hooolahoop

need some advice here. not sure i posted it on the correct forum but anyways...

i'm nearly 20 years old already, but my parents never trusted me. they still treat me like a kid! they restrict ALL my movements. i need to report where i'm going, and who i'm going out with. i even have to give them the number(s) of my friend(s). they DEMAND to know who i'm chatting with on the net on msn, and they expect me to have no secrets from them.

i believe i'm old enough to take care of myself in many ways, and although i look really small, my maturity level can be shocking. but somehow, my parents don't trust me at all! they even restrict who i can make friends with, and who not to (and practically everybody falls into this category).

can anybody help me make my parents trust me? thanks in advance...

shypineapple

have a heart-to-heart talk w/ them in a nice manner.
simply because you are a girl(if you are e only child,thats even worst =x)...my sis has a curfew at ur age too....
the msn part is too much....'just in case' anything happens to you,they can contact any of ur frenz easily mah.....today is mother's day,after u hug her, say 'don't control me too much okay'....lol!

My mind fails to understand
What my heart tells me to do
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artpark

maybe u should talk to them some days about the stuff ?

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Jolene.Ying

Same plight here. :/

Tried talking to her wouldn't help. ( No courage + she would not listen . -_-)
But i have no plans at the moment. LOL.

wait wait. I help you draft out a plan to change her impression of you . HEHEHEHE.




OK. i admit im lame. -_-

Liars will always be liars.
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dandan.

my situation quite similar to you .
they never trusted me , and always say im at wrong when im not !
i always get pissed .
and i would run out in the middle of the night . LOL

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The Game

i think that one reason your parents behave this way is because you are a female.

i mean if you look at the news nowadays, females get hurt or gets bullied more easily online or outside . your parents are worried for your wellbeing and safety, thus their actions. too many cases of girls getting cheated, agreed?

and like you said, you are small sized, so all the more people tend to develop a protective feeling for you, not to mention your parents.

maturity is not a case of how matured you think you are, its the things you do, your actions you portray to others, how you speak, and very importantly, how you think and settle issues, problems.

i can tell you that being 19-21 years old does not mean the age of maturity. some people can be very matured at 17, in the form of their mindset. some, at 25, is still hopelessly wilful.

apparently your parents think you are not ready yet. so trust them. unless your parents are those nightmare parents, which i doubt so, you should trust their judgement, for they are the ones who have watched you grow for two decades. they know you, and they want the best for you.

perhaps only in time will you know what im talking about

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yukio

the more they restrict the more rebelious you will get.. you should talk to them!

lets see.. so if one day they ask you who are you chatting with on msn? and you reply that is personal. they will say "oh now wings grow hard liao can fly liao is it" ? will they say that?

The Game

dandan, to run out in the middle of night shows them all the more they are right. anyway, running out like this, what if, touch wood, something happens to you?

i mean, if they always wrong you, then challenge them proper and show them why you are right by doing the right things, not running out at midnight. what are you trying to prove? that you can and will do what you want?

all of us have been through this stage of life before, where your parent bug you to death over studies, friends, every little aspect of your life.

instead of hating them and plotting to get back at them or getting angry, think in their point of view.

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shypineapple

agreed/
being rebellious might backfire (unless ur parents have a soft spot) =x
at e end of e day,there are your parents.

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jeffchung

should say like that " till a day u become a parents, u will be same as them " lolx

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