confused

Hi to all,
I am new here , Anyone around here who can help me out regarding relationship problem?

Syaoran

erm....like?

gfwanted

wat is the problem???

akiechan

state yr problem plse

confused

i am still single, have been getting along well with a female collegue of mine (who is married with a kid) , we have work together in same company for past 4 years. I treat her as collegue and chat with her almost everyday, we can chat about anything. we never quarrel and always chat in nice manner. but one day she raise her voice at me "why you ask me? you should go and ask her(my other female collegue) ,you should ask her how she feel after using the slimming product..." . i was a bit shock, well , she saw me chatting with A before that, is she jealous or not in good mood that day ? i don't know. she was cool to me that day.

akiechan

perhaps, she's having PMS tat day

confused

sorry.. continue from previous post..
I ask her close female friend that day " is she in bad mood ,why she doesn't seem like talking to me" , i guess her girlfriend has told her what i have said, the next day, she tried to approch me and talk to me, but i avoid her and pretend didn't talk to her that day (i guess i was angry at her for rasing her voice at me and cool to me ), now come to think of it, i was not gentlemen enough and must have hurt her feeling.

akiechan

so now, u wan 2 apologise but dunno how to izzit?

confused

sorry again.. continue from previous post..
now i guess she must be angry or hurt that day, the next day i approach her and chat with her again (but sorry i never apologise), she seem to be normal but when i asked her what happened to her girlfriend (who was not feeling well that day and left company early), she raised her voice at me again. then i asked her "what have i done wrong, you seem don't like to talk to me nowadays" , she raised at voice again "you didn't do anything wrong ,if you like to talk to whoever then you should just go to talk to her." "i am married and you are single, i think we should just remain as collegue (???? , i am confused ? can't we just collegue, we never contact after work ?) and keep a distance else others will gossip" " if we are too close , it will cause misunderstanding" , when she said those word , she was half-crying.

confused

have she fallen for me ?? we didn't talk to each other for the next 2 days as she was unhappy then, and after that, she was on sick leave for a months". she has been back to work 2 days ago, she seem to hate me when she llo kat me, we didn't chat, i think i have fallen for her too , i miss her when she is on leave, seem like it is very difficult to talk to each other as freely as what we used to do. am i too much? what should i do now ? need advice, thanks....

confused

seem like everyone is in dreamland now.....anyone still around ???

retxxter

Why you didnt post all one straight go de??

Well.. ask urself truly whether do u reli have feelings for her. But bare in mind that she is married. U might be the 3rd party already. It's better dont get involved although u like her. Might be she doesnt have much talks with her hubby. So the closest she can chat is with you.

Probably she wants to own u for herself - called abit selfish.

If not, why does she want to be bad temper when u ask something regarding about a girl/women?

Try to sit down with her and talk everything. What makes her get angry when everytime you ask the same question.

:disgust2: ++ Life Is Death ++

vgohyk

I think you should post your problem together in the first post. Perhaps you can edit? It's a little confusing if people have to read it this way.

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When you asked about her girlfriend, she raised her voice at you.. that pretty much shows me that she's kinda interested in you and that makes her jealous. 4 years of seeing each other daily and being the 'close colleage' would most probably develop some chemistry among each other.

However, I do see that what she is doing is wrong. IF she's having a bad r/s with her husband, I can understand why she's allowing herself to develop feelings for you. BUT if there's nothing wrong within her family, I don't see why she's doing this. Furthermore she has a kid!

confused

Hi retxxter , enDlessly, Thanks for replying and the kind advice, apologized for having a hard time reading my posts. i didnt post all one straight go cos afraid i might press the wrong key and have to re-tpye all over again.
i enjoy chatting with her and was happy helping her out at work , but didn't miss her or think of her after work. but after what happened and having not chat to each other for quite sometime, i keep thinking of her and was sad. i guess i have feelings for her too. i don't know whether i am the 3rd party or not, but now i remember her close female friend once told me" so now i understand, you are her third party......" in front of her , of course i took that as a joke. She once told me " marriage is just like a contract, if i can still get along well with my hubby, then we will continue for another year if not..., i have been married for X yrs already , it is about time i ...." .
i have not approched and chat with her for the past 3 days. i can feel she tried to talk to me when i walked past her but i pretend not to notice her. and now she is mad at me for that, Maybe i should pretend nothing has happened ,but it is really hard.

GreenShell

Wah, this is interesting... sound like those sec school life where lots of those 3rd party case... stuck at the cross road not knowing who to choose.. Hmm.

My opinion is that you don't get feelings involve bah. I know it's terrible, but at least, you'd feel much better? Being single or not doesn't really matter mah. No one is ever too old to find someone. Moreover, you're at work, you can just indulge yourself into all the work and be one hardworking person..

Maybe you should let things cool down first? I don't know whether does this method applies to working adults... but it does help alittle in sec school life.. :biggrin4:

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scorpio

yeah ...cool down for a time period first...any movement now maybe will lead u to wrong or good....

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Knox

well either she's in a very bad PMS mood..
or i don't know..
but here's a simple solution..
just avoid her..like she said she's married and you're single..
so y care so much if she's just a colleague to u?
unless u like her lah! which is wrong!

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GreenShell

Time heals all wound? I don't know.... =\

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