LuXune

What do girls means when they say feel stress or pressurised in the relationship sometime. As in like, sometime when we go out a in group outing with our friends, she would avoid me even tho our friends know that we are a couple. Also , They even told her that we are couple but we dun look one and she should do something about it. But she say it stress her sometime. Well, i tried showing my love to her, like bought the stuff she want, talk to over her mostly on msn and sms over the night and other stuff. Well i wanted to try holding her hand now but i dunno if should cuz there was a incident, whereby we were watching a movie in cinema, she sort of leaned onto my shoulder. But now after reading her blog, i dunno whether i should do it or not.

In her blog, she say i try so hard in this relationship that it stress her so much till she feels like giving up and ask me not to take it seriously. What does 'stress' means? Does it means shes not ready yet?

Okay to make it easier for u all to understand, heres our status.

Before BGR Status: Closes friends. known her for 2 years, in secondary school. Started only after olevels.

BGR Status: BF and GF for 2month plus
1st relationship for both of us, never stead any1 before
Age: both of us are 17

Her characther : VERY Shy type and most of the time when u ask her whats wrong, she would say NOTHING or DUNNO.Sometime when u talk to her face to face, she always look on the floor

Her relationship with her family: Not good at all. She is usually quarrelling with her step mum and she is unable to commiucate with her father and stepmum. Been doing that since like the age of 7. So yea, her family and her are sort of in a bad terms.( I think that sort of affected our relationship )

PUA_The Gamer

I know a webby that have an answer to your problem, if you wan to webby pm me.

diesopain

Stress can mean many things......

insecurities probably seeing her father,her stepmum & her mum.....she probably thinks her relationship might end up like her mum.....which is y she might feel that maybe u r not the right one....in this case it could be tricky...and telling u not be serious probably she didn't want to get hurt....sort of a self-protecting mechanism.....

there is another possibility.....that is since both of u are 1st timer being inexperienced u tend to stick to each other....sumtimes she wants a little bit space.....let her be with her friends..having a healthy social circle is also a key.....

and also in my perspective giving u answers like dunnoe, nothing doesn't mean she is shy
she could be not yet ready to open up to u and u need to find out wat happen....showing care & concern doesn't do it by juz talking....u nid to observe & analyse y is she feeling depress comfort her....if she really doesn't want u to probe then just comfort her gave her a hug...

plus avoiding eye-contact means she is hiding something which u nid to find out.....

hope this helps

LuffingQueen

wow simi webbie so lihai..

i guess her stress maybe, feeling ur control and care makes her feel slightly uneasy cos since nobody do that b4... she too used to be single

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diesopain

yeah i also want to noe the webby display the link here lah =X

TheShah

One thing to understand a BGR is not straight forward..lots of UPS and Downs and bumps and small lanes..u need to maneuver a lot...sometimes whats best is too give each other some space...take it naturally...respect each others wishes and needs...Do not be blinded by 'love'...A lot of hurt and heartache..but it will all be worth it in the end..if you are sincere..

What you are going thru bro..is the bliss of being in a BGR...its part of growing up..enjoy the ride..no matter how painful it can sometimes be..but it will make both of you stronger as a person..emotionally

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LuXune

Wa really? Send me !! i can't pm cuz my post is too litte ...

LuXune

Icic, okay i'll try to give her space now, i keep smsing her, sending her letters and stuff was to help her feel secure when i go into poly. Because both of us are going into different poly. Before both of us started this BGR, she asked whether i would regret being with her in the future and stuff . so yea.. that why i'm trying to my best to make her feel secure. i dunno whether she would feel insecure and more stress when she enter poly.

TheShah

Bro..how are you getting on with all this?..sometimes should reflect back..and think for yourself too...are you sincere in this BGR with her?..Donkey Years back..when I am going thru this with my G (btw now she is my wife)...I always remember what Rick Price said :-

she's always on my mind,
from the time i wake up
'till i close my eyes
she's everywhere i go
she's all i know

though she's so far away
it's just keeps getting stronger
every day
and even now she's gone
i'm still holding on

so tell me where do i start
'cause it's breaking my heart
don't wanna let her go

chorus:
maybe my love will come back some day
only heaven knows
and maybe our hearts will find their way
only heaven knows
and all i can do is hope and pray
'cause heaven knows

my friends keep telling me
that if you really love her
you've gotta set her free
and if she returns in kind
i'll know she's mine

so tell me where do i start
'cause it's breaking my heart
don't wanna let her go

chorus

why i live in despair
'cause wide awake or dreaming
i know she's never there
and all these time i act so brave
i'm shaking inside
why does it hurt me so...

chorus

heaven knows

Always made me feel good after that

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LuXune

Well, definatly, haha looking back in the past 2 years ago, as how i and her were just friends, as in really just normal friends, people used to say that we should get together stuff but neither of us believe it. We didnt like each other at all. But somehow , i dunno when, both of us just had sparks. I really want to be with her and stuff. when i talk to her, i feel comfortable and warmth. you know what i mean?

Haha and i know i'm native and shouldn't be saying this fantasy saying but really deep down, when i really found someone i like, i would follow that person forever, otherwise, i would not have started this relationship.

BTW nice song. i should try listening to it =)

TheShah

Good on you bro...and wish you and your girl all the best...in life

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LuXune

Thanks man! Wish u gl with your marriage too. May it last forever.

PUA_The Gamer

hahahs.. i can't pm you either, i won't reveal the webby here sorry...

LuXune

oh icic, okay i think now can pm liao, i'll pm u to now.

inle

17 years old????
dun wori about it at all...

anyway u guys wont b marryin each other ya....
u will laugh at urself after many yrs ya....

Looking Busy

Both of you are 17?

What do you understand by love? Talking about love when you are only 17 is over-rated.

Concentrate on your studies first. You still have a long winding road to walk in life.

zrahhh

overrated? lol..
i work in as a wedding banquet waiter in the past
and i would say most of the couples ive seen been tgt since poly or jc.

and to ts, you mentioned
"In her blog, she say i try so hard in this relationship
that it stress her so much till she feels like giving up
and ask me not to take it seriously"
Then whats the point of getting into a rlship.
I believe she didnt convey her message well correctly by saying that lol

just my opinions. lol
peace.

LuXune

Er Her godbro called me this morning and said that try not do things beyond me reach, like make things simpler instead of things which require alot of effort. i think he mean that ask me to be normal self.

oh sry i didn't read the post before