shingshing

As above.

Like sometimes you're busy with too many stuff that you only wish to spend the remaining time for yourself and a few closer friends so as not to "waste" precious time. But then its hard to reject other friends' dates at times when you really feel tired and just wish to spend a relaxing day alone. Everybody needs some personal time isn't it?

And the trouble is, not everybody can take rejection.

So, what is the right way to tell them?

mendy

normally i'll tell them not free at the moment.
and if you're somewhat in the same cases like me, where's there's totally no spare time to share with.
it's a good answer to them.
they'll ask you quite some time but gradually hearing that answer, they'll start to aim for another person to go out with.

well~ but still if you don't bear the heart to tell them, would you want to be tired at that point of the whole day? just to sacrifices for your friends?
so it's good if you got the will to tell them politely "sorry, unable to go. got important tasks or events to deal with"

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burgerboi

hm... 99% of the time i will actually go out with whoever that ask me out if i can really make it
of cos when i am sick or alrdy occupied, i will definitely tell them the reason
but that 1% will be when i am really tired or lazy
i will just say "no... sorry... i dun feel like it..."

if they go "waaaah lau.... come out lah, dun pangseh us leh"

i will go "i din even agree to go out in the first place, wad pangseh"

den if they "f**k lah, just come lah, friend friend liddat"

i will be "... i... really... dun... feel... like... it... goodbye!"





yep, i will be really straight, no point sugar coating the words or cook up lies and make urself a liar, if they are ur friends, and all they want is a meet up rather than serious help, then they will understand

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DINEy

haha. i would most likely use

"not free leh"
"lazy go out"
"very tired"
"no money la, you treat izzit?"

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Delardino

Normally i say see first, they will know i don't want to go already, they know me well enough.

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leng8021

i will say busy with kids and family as excuse...sometimes its really true that i dont hv much time....i will chat a while on the phone with them instead...

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tear

hmm i would say i not free...hmmm however..hmmm i once said this to a fren...she asked wat i busy w...i said i wanna do assignments at home...hmmm then she not happy le coz i like v selfish...dun help her..hmm till now we still seldom tok...tok le just feel v wierd...v fake

PiDanBeR

Well... I will just tell them I'm tired or what if those request comes 'last min' lor... but if pre-arrange de, I wont reject lor... Coz I find it not nice to 'ban buei gi'...

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shingshing

Ya, that is why I said some people can't take rejection. Reject a few times they kinda pissed off lidat. Its like not our fault that we are not free but just that the other party don't understand. :handsup:

hmmm...what if people are persistant?

Friend: Next friday can?
Me: Eh, not free ya.
Friend: Ok, how about thurs?
Me: Not free too...
Friend: Then when you free?
Me: [why still don't get my hint?!?] Hmm...actually this whole month not really free...[my ans really lame..lol.]
Friend: ok...


Wah, straight away kup people. Win liao~~ :biggrin4:

illusionx

well, i will just say... eh.. not free bah. tot they will say ps and stuff oh well.

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Clew

well, denying the truth from them may be wrong, but telling the truth at times can be harsh. Either way, there will be certain implications. Usually i give them white lies whenever i wanted some time on my own, and put burden on my conscience, doing the selfless approach by hurting them as little as possible. If i have 2 dates with 2 group of friends, i would then frankly tell the latter that i had an appointment with so and so earlier on, therefore perhaps next time then...

With that being said, using too much white lies can actually be very counterproductive.

Somewhat, i dislike these kind of peer pressure, thats why i usually isolate myself away at home most of the time. And would rather hang out online, with online friends. Because you could be at more than 1 locations at a time then. :P

Not that i'm friendless, but my friends are mostly the hi-bye type, due to my quiet nature, and isolative being. Still, i get along pretty well with them when we're together. :P lol.
for now, i don't even have the chance to reject, because my hp is off most of the time with me having being online on msn rarely, exclusive to late nights.

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shingshing

haha...win liao lo. :biggrin4: