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**vgohyk** · 22-04-2007, 02:35 AM

	Quote:			Originally Posted by maylimtw
	I'm so lost. It has been 1 yr 4 months since i broke up with my ex. And by now it should be long enough for me to get over him. During this period we have not stayed in contact though there were many times i wanted to but didn't have the courage. He left me for another gal. But i don't hate him and in fact still love him. What can i do to get him out of my heart? Currently, there is this other guy whom has been treating me very well. I thought i can start a new r/s. But i realised its totally unfair coz i'm still thinking of my ex. And many times i'm comparing the 2 of them and my ex always 'wins'. Oh what should i do? I feel like a bitch.:cry3:

Those in bold is similar to my past history. I'd say that it's not easy at all to forget a person, especially you mentioned that it took you 1 yr 4 months.. yet you're still loving him so deeply. People can take a few weeks/months to forget, some may take up to years or forever. It all depends on individuals, their mindset and situations. I was once in love with a guy whom we both never get started before and it took me 4 straight years to get over him. I did mention in 1 thread that I'm glad I did forget the past as I have found myself a good boyfriend - a guy whom I want to spend with for the rest of my life.

You know, by getting rid of the past, it helps you to regain your lost confidence in love. By getting rid of your ex, you'll have a chance to start your life "anew" and with better chances of meeting the "right man". It's definitely tough, but it is possible to.

In my process of loving the 4 year-impossible-guy, we didn't keep in contact at all. Avoidance is the best word. However, in that process, I do come across quite a number of "nice" guys whom they can be considered as being my bf. I was rather picky and hence, I'd compare (just like you do), and at the end of the day, I'd still think that the 4 year-impossibe-guy was still the best.

Yet, as time passed.. (4 years later), I started to realise it was all rubbish. I was here yearning for him daily and he was out there enjoying. I mean, frankly speaking, I believe your ex has long forgotten you. He chose to be with another girl than you, why still dwell about it? He doesn't worth your love, my dear.

Even if one fine day he comes back to you and tells you how much he still loves you and that he realised his mistakes, let him go and don't ever be soft-hearted. He simply don't deserve your love.

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