Hi retxxter , enDlessly, Thanks for replying and the kind advice, apologized for having a hard time reading my posts. i didnt post all one straight go cos afraid i might press the wrong key and have to re-tpye all over again.
i enjoy chatting with her and was happy helping her out at work , but didn't miss her or think of her after work. but after what happened and having not chat to each other for quite sometime, i keep thinking of her and was sad. i guess i have feelings for her too. i don't know whether i am the 3rd party or not, but now i remember her close female friend once told me" so now i understand, you are her third party......" in front of her , of course i took that as a joke. She once told me " marriage is just like a contract, if i can still get along well with my hubby, then we will continue for another year if not..., i have been married for X yrs already , it is about time i ...." .
i have not approched and chat with her for the past 3 days. i can feel she tried to talk to me when i walked past her but i pretend not to notice her. and now she is mad at me for that, Maybe i should pretend nothing has happened ,but it is really hard. | 
